Rather your male or female, having healthy outlets to deal with past trauma is not something prevalent in the Black community. Few men even mention their trauma yet alone deal with it, but there seems to be a growing trend in women being comfortable mentioning their flaws but uncomfortable  and uninterested in a resolution. Everyone has issues and most of us have past trauma, there is help out there if you believe in the help and want it, so we encourage everyone to 1st identify then seek resolution or therapy.