Do you or your partner make ultimatums? For example, do either of you say things you regret saying like, "I want a divorce," "You don't care about me," "I want to break up."

Of course, no one is ever proud of this behavior but when in pain, your attachment style gets activated, and what the other person does or doesn't do triggers your reaction.

Eventually, the crisis will pass, but it will end if your anxious, preoccupied attachment style continues to sabotage the relationship.

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