During one of our after-dinner chats, my wife and I were discussing our work. The concept of power came up. We explored how people think that getting things, buying, showing off, being the influencer is what makes people feel powerful. That’s all backwards, of course. Having more doesn’t make you powerful. And certainly pretending to have more doesn’t make you powerful.

And my wife blurted out something profound:

It’s not the having, it’s the choosing that defines you.