 Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Cyndi Doyle – Licensed Professional Counselor and Law Enforcement Officer Wife Plans to go see U2 in concert with my brother while my husband was working As significant others of first responders or LEOs, we condition ourselves to fit their world. Psychology 101: Skinner’s Box / Operant Conditioning - https://www.simplypsychology.org/operant-conditioning.html Conditioning or automatic response could be positive or negative. Negative conditioning could lead to resentment. John and Julie Gottman, couples experts, “Masters of Relationships and Disasters of Relationships” – contempt in the relationship - https://www.gottman.com/ State what your needs are and how you are feeling. Come up with a compromise by honoring each other’s core need. Share what areas you are flexible in and areas that you are inflexible in. Don’t forget your balance – the relationship needs along with your personal needs. My website: www.code4couples.com 

Episode 2: How Has LEO Life Conditioned You?

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Moral Injuries are a significant yet often unrecognized issue among first responders. Understanding what a moral injury is and recognizing its potential impact on careers and families is crucial to their overall wellness. In this episode, Judy Couwels talks about what moral injuries are, how to recognize them, and how to combat their impact.   The First Responder Mental Health, "The Clinician's Guide

Ep 140: The Impact of Moral Injuries

 Communication and connection are a challenge for all of us in law enforcement relationships. There are some extra special challenges when you're on call all the time or you're in situations where you just can't talk due to being in a special assignment such as undercover work or maybe the part of a SWAT team.  Heather Williams, a law enforcement professional, turned police psychologist, and SWAT spouse talks about the unique challenges of special units, their impact on relationships and strategies to communicate and connect.   Premier First Responder Psychological Services Premier1streponder.com heather@premierfirstresponder.com.

Ep 139: Communication Challenges in Special Assignments

“I just don't want to burden my spouse with what I experience on the job” is a way of protecting the people that you love. I always thought my husband was open only to find out later that this happened a few times within our relationship. Most of the time an officer's spouse and family sense that something is up. It bleeds over. While protecting the family is noble, it is also a way that an officer can avoid talking about difficult things. Our relationships need to involve trust. Officers, trust that your spouse can handle what you are sharing, and as a spouse trust that an officer will navigate that line between sharing and traumatizing. This week, law enforcement couple Brett and Danielle Koss joined me to discuss developing a reciprocal relationship of trust and understanding.   CCS Behavioral Health and Recovery (ccswebsite.org)

Ep 138: Let Family In

  We have all worked in a toxic work environment due to the workplace culture, co-workers, supervisors, or the work itself.       Stephanie Kiesow is a former law enforcement officer, cop kid, and cop’s wife.  She saw how work impacted her parents, their mood, and in turn the family.  She started her career in law enforcement at 18 and in 2011, when her fiancé had a pending IA, lost him to death by suicide.  This kicked off what Stephanie calls her obsessive curiosity about suicide and how the workplace contributes to the permanent decision.       Stephanie is currently working on her PhD in Organizational psychology.  Through her research and education, she found contributing workplace factors that impact mental health and cause death in a perceptual sense or literal sense and coined the term workicide.       Stephanie’s goal is to help people mitigate a work-related decline in their mental health and increase their overall well-being so they can enjoy work and love life. She has written the book  Workicide to help others do just that.         This is a deep topic but you will want to hear her research and her solutions for our law enforcement culture.      LinkedIn:  Stephanie K.   Workicide: How to Overcome a Career-Related Decline in Mental Health and Reignite Your Passion for Work and Life.   Burnout — Code4Couples  Beyond the Badge — Code4Couples 

Ep 137: Workicide

In this podcast episode, host Cyndi Doyle interviews John Blumenthal, a Retired Master Sergeant (Ret.) with the Oklahoma City Police Department. Blumenthal shares his personal journey of struggling with trauma and making poor choices, which led to the deterioration of his relationships with his family. He emphasizes the importance of prioritizing wellness and seeking help. He discusses his involvement in peer support and wellness programs, including his work with the Warriors Rest Foundation and the National Cops Program. Blumenthal encourages law enforcement officers to seek support and make positive choices to improve their well-being and relationships.  Essential Skills for Law Enforcement Couples: Free Guide  john@warriorsrestfoundation.org. Warriors Rest Foundation COPS    Code4Couples: Get Updates on Latest Podcasts and Resources! 

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