You think because your kids tell you they'll never grow up to do what their dad does (be an angry drunk) it actually works out that way? You explain to them why Dad can't help it, and to try and focus on the good stuff and not the bad stuff. You tell them to learn from his mistakes. They don't. They learn from what they experience. You model bad behaviour and a bad marriage, that's what they learn. I thought I could protect them from it. I couldn't and I didn't. And now I can't take it back. This is what I hope my kids know.