How I Lost A Husband, 20 Pounds & A Doormat Mentality

The conclusion so far...

Aime found someone. He ticks all the boxes. So how can something so perfect go so wrong? Searching for a life partner the second time around should be easier. We know what we want and don't want. But how do we know we're not subconsciously making the same mistakes we did the first time around? How do we stop history repeating? Can we really change the kind of man we're attracted to?

I was on the road to getting my head together. I knew what went wrong last time. I knew the statistics of falling for the same kind of man as my ex-husband. I knew I had a tendency to need validation and a desire to be approved of. I knew I learnt more about myself on my own than I did with a partner. I needed a break from dating - to stop using it as a distraction from achieving my goals. It all made perfect sense. Until I met Samual.

My first time dating online was fun and exciting and like a brand new hobby. It became my favourite past-time. Who wouldn't love the challenge of trying to get men to fall in love with you? But how do you know when you find the right one? I might need a list.

An episode about dating again after a 25 year hiatus - with the added complication of social media. Who'd have thought, at 45, I'd start feeling like a teenager again. Or start obsessing about love songs and lyrics. Or worse, unable to leave the room without my phone in case he texted me. Surely I was too old and too wise to fall back into bad habits? Think again.

Aime is dusting off the lifelong dream of making a living from her creative work. Here she discusses the four roadblocks that stand in her way.

Aime discusses how she found life satisfaction after following this simple plan.

It's only taken 50 years (well nearly) to learn that being my authentic self is allowed. In fact it's downright encouraged. It's my imperfections that make me interesting and it's through our imperfections we connect to others.

I thought I had it all together. I thought my kids had come through unscathed. I thought I lot of crazy things. I thought wrong.

I used to organise my time into two categories - the stuff I enjoyed doing and the stuff I didn't. I'd run around madly to get things done in the smallest amount of time possible, so I could relax and do the stuff I liked (watch television, eat food, holidays.) I don't do that now.