In this episode, we explore how men can effectively facilitate repair in their relationships, especially when they need it most. Luke Adler joins me to discuss how cultural conditioning discourages men from recognizing and expressing their needs—often leading to disconnection, resentment, or emotional outbursts.

Through personal stories, we highlight the importance of mutual accountability, the pitfalls of passive aggression, and the power of vulnerability in creating a culture of repair. We also discuss how men can navigate resistance when expressing their needs and build the relational skills necessary for deeper intimacy.

Join us as we challenge traditional masculinity and encourage men to embrace their emotions for stronger, healthier relationships. And if you want to dive deeper, The Intimacy Blueprint starts April 15th—learn more at beingmen.net!

00:00:00 - Introduction to Men's Needs in Relationships

00:01:22 - Cultural Conditioning and Vulnerability

00:02:50 - Personal Example: The Salt Shaker Incident

00:05:08 - The Importance of Mutual Accountability

00:05:49 - Passive Aggression and Unmet Needs

00:07:40 - Another Personal Example: The Potluck Experience

00:10:39 - Navigating Anger and Vulnerability

00:11:46 - Challenges in Vulnerability and Repair

00:12:55 - The Role of Trauma in Relationship Dynamics

00:15:27 - Creating a Culture of Repair

00:16:31 - Taking Turns in Repair Conversations

00:19:06 - The Importance of Time in Conflict Resolution

00:21:19 - Conclusion and Course Announcement