In this Anchored in Christ conversation, Olushile and Latifat get real about a question they hear all the time from couples they mentor:

“How often should we be going on dates?”

They share honestly about their own journey—having kids in the first year of marriage, how children (and even good things like work and ministry) subtly became a wedge between them, and what it looked like to reorder their priorities: God first, spouse second, kids third, and everything else after that.

If you’ve ever felt like your marriage is on the back burner—because of kids, schedules, or just survival mode—this episode will gently challenge and encourage you to fight for time together, even if it feels awkward at first.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Kids are a gift, not your glue. 
• Distractions can look “good.” 
• Consistency beats intensity. 
• It might feel awkward at first—and that’s okay. 
• Somebody has to go first. One spouse may not be excited at the beginning. The question is: are you willing to lead in this area and fight for your marriage?

Reflection Questions for Listeners

• How often are you currently going on dates (or having intentional time) with your spouse?
• What tends to “get in the way” the most—kids, work, phones, ministry, exhaustion?
• Are you willing to be the one who goes first in prioritizing this, even if it feels awkward at the start?

🙌 Call to Action

We’d love to hear from you:

👉 How often do you and your spouse go on dates right now?
What rhythm has worked for you in this season?