In this episode, we’re examining how PDA & BPD can impact romantic relationships. If you’re wondering how to avoid triggers, feel loved, and build connection with your partner, this episode is for you!

We're answering these listener questions:

• I need a lot of alone time to regulate my nervous system, but my partner takes it personally and thinks I don't love them. I just sit around and do nothing so its not like I’m having fun without her. The worse part is I think like that too when she’s playing star dew valley for hours even though I know it’s not that. How do I get my space, have time for my special interests and decompress without making her feel abandoned or unwanted? I do like time with her but a guys got a job and bills to pay so I have to use energy at work and try to do overtime for extra cash. If it changes your guys answer, she is ADHD BPD and I am autistic PDA.
• I’m 26 and got told I’m borderline last year by a therapist. I think I have rejection sensitivity and maybe even PDA. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years and I know we need to talk about our relationship issues, but the moment my partner says 'we need to talk' my brain completely shuts down and I want to run away and hide, or just dump them even though stuff is normally really good. How can we handle our issues without triggering me to run away or shutdown? He thinks I’m projecting my trauma on him because my ex was actually abusive but I don’t think of him as my ex at all.

Show Notes:

• THRIVE (18+): www.thrivevirtualcon.com/ 
• Kink Trust Pixie Dust (for therapists): www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live 
• Sabrina’s BPD Stigma & Teens training (for therapists): https://www.neuropebble.com/bpd-teengirls

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)