If you're feeling helpless or hopeless right now, you're not alone- and there are things we can do (as ADHDers and autistic folks) to help make movement and change! We're answering questions this week about advocacy, activism, and volunteering in our communities. We discuss different roles we can play based on our strengths and weaknesses, ways to find places to volunteer, and the differences between visibility and change-making. Listen in for some fresh insight and check the show notes for resources!

Content note: We do briefly discuss death, murder, systemic oppression, fights for civil rights, liberation, and other related topics. The primary focus of the episode is on the roles we individually play in our communities.

On Upping the Ante, the free bonus content here on Patreon, we're continuing the conversation by sharing about some of our volunteer, advocacy, and activist experiences.

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Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

How do autistic and ADHD people make romantic Valentine’s Day plans? We’re covering that on this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! Whether you’re throwing a party with friends or trying to take your partner out on a date, we’re giving our ideas on how to make it an unforgettable time. Is it the thought that counts or should you snag inspiration from movies? Join us to hear our thoughts- and leave us a comment to let us know how you prefer to celebrate V Day!

On Upping the Ante (bonus content here on Patreon), we’re talking about how to celebrate Valentine’s Day if you’re single or alone. We’ve got some suggestions on what you could do to still enjoy yourself, but also ideas on how to lean into other feelings, too! Whether you enjoy or hate V Day, we hope you’ll find something useful in the free bonus content this week over on Patreon.

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Are you worried you might hurt your partner’s feelings if you were to come out as ace, demi, or on the asexuality-spectrum in general? We’re covering that on this week’s episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast! We explore ways to express yourself to your partner(s) and give a strong reminder that your identity exploration is ultimately not about your partner's worth- it's about understanding your own desires and yourself. If you’re feeling ready to have that conversation, come listen!

On Upping the Ante, our free bonus content here on Patreon, we explore how to tell new dates that you’re on the asexuality spectrum. We also discuss how to bring it up to your therapist (and how to look for red flags!)

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Need to brush up on your Neurodivergent Flirting Skills? Flirting can feel like a complex game with no clear rules, especially in the context of modern dating. In the latest episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast, we explore the nuances of flirting, how to recognize when someone is interested, the challenges of interpreting intentions, and how to approach flirting in a more effective way for autistic folks! You’re right at home if you feel like you’re playing a game that’s outside of your control. Join us to hear what to do about that.

On Upping the Ante here on Patreon, we take this a step further by discussing how to avoid giving off desperate energy and how to phrase things on dating apps. We also uncover some reasons you might be getting ghosted or left on Read that have nothing to do with YOU and how you’re showing up!

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Whether you’re a millennial or not, you may be wondering why so many millennials are suddenly realizing they’re autistic! We attempt to answer that, as well as provide insight about autistic millennials in general and what similarities we have (if any.) Is it a Tiktok Diagnosis, a trend, or deep self-realizations?

On Upping the Ante, we talk about what it was like to be parented by different generations of neurodivergent parents. If you’ve ever felt like it was a little tough growing up and want to commiserate with us, join us over on Patreon for this free bonus content!

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We're joined this week by Kyle Rutherford, LMFT-Associate, a therapist, a partner in a neurodiverse relationship, and a proud ADHDer & HSP! He specializes in working with neurodiverse relationship constellations in Austin, TX and online for Texans. We discuss differing expectations and communication styles, when to "toss a relationship in the bin", and how to navigate tough things. We also explore why there's primarily a certain type of advice out there when it comes to autistic & allistic relationships.

On Hit Me Again, our (paid) guest bonus content here on Patreon, we're covering breakups through an autistic lens. If you've ever felt like you can't get someone out of your head or are driven to look them up even if it's been years, this might resonate with you!

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We discussed being autistic at work in this episode! How do you move up the corporate ladder? Should you even try? What makes a good supervisor? We share our tips and tricks for supervising people, carving out roles that work with your strengths, and more! If you’ve ever wondered how autistic people supervise or manage, this episode will answer those questions.

On Upping the Ante, our free bonus content here on Patreon, we take this even further and share about some good and bad supervision experiences we’ve had. We also explore the pros and cons of getting promotions. Give it a listen after the main ep!

*NOTE: We recorded on a different platform than usual- our apologies if the volume is quieter than normal.

Radical Candor by Kim Scott (book)

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We’re letting you in on a little known secret: Where to find autistic therapists and community! It shouldn’t be a secret but it’s tough to know where to look to find others like yourself- and us. We discuss the importance of community, tips to getting closer to other autistic therapists, and how to start a community space if you feel up to it.

On our free bonus content (here on Patreon) called Upping the Ante, we cover how to “do all the things” while being an autistic therapist. There is a ton of stuff to balance and we let you in on how we do it. We also give away our secrets (AKA accommodations that we find useful and wish more people implemented!) Join us on the free bonus content to get more tips and ideas. We hope it’ll inspire folks to join and/or stay in the field!

• Autistic Clinical Insights: https://www.autisticclinicalinsights.com/ 
• THRIVE virtual convention: https://thrivevirtualcon.com/ 
• Doubt Yourself, Do It Anyway (Portland, Maine summit) with Sabrina: https://radicalinsights--allthingsprivatepractice.thrivecart.com/maine-summit-registration/ 
• Radical Insights Consulting mailing list: https://www.radicalinsightsconsulting.com/newsletter
• Curious Cryptid Learning mailing list: https://cryptidlearns.kit.com/ 
• NeuroPebble: https://www.neuropebble.com 
• Therapists Supporting Neurodiversity FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/721847776303787

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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For Episode 12, we're joined by B Lourenco, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, to discuss the complexities of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and its impact on parenting and relationships. We explored the nuances of PDA, the challenges faced by parents of PDA children, communication and collaboration strategies, and the importance of repair in relationships. B shares insights from her personal and professional experiences, emphasizing the need for understanding, autonomy, and playful communication in navigating the unique dynamics of PDA!

On Hit Me Again, our paid guest bonus content here on Patreon, we explored dating as a PDAer and answered a question about a PDA partner who's "not pulling his weight." Join us to hear our considerations and how we might approach those situations!

B Lourenco at www.blourencotherapy.com

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Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Just in time for a couple of holidays, we’re talking all about being autistic and giving & receiving gifts! If you’re someone who struggles with giving the “right” reaction to presents or with knowing what gifts to get people, you’ll find some helpful tips and tricks on this episode. We’re also giving you some ideas for how to create new traditions, accommodate yourself, and set boundaries around holidays and gift exchanges. 

On Upping the Ante, our free exclusive bonus content, we’re exploring what we’ve enjoyed for gifts in the past and how to navigate work-related Secret Santa, White Elephant, or general gift exchanges! It can be tough to know what to get and how to present it- let us help you out!

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)