Diary of a Matchmaker

How Scholars and Others Have Let Us Down


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This episode is one of those conversations we hesitated to have… and then realized we had to. We talk honestly about the mediocrity we’ve run into while trying to do serious work in the Muslim community. Not just with people in general, but with scholars and community leaders too. Big names. People we respected and whose lectures we’ve shared. We reached out in good faith, tried to collaborate, and were met with silence, ghosting, or half-hearted follow-through. It raises uncomfortable questions. Who actually gets access to scholars? Why does it feel like there’s an inner circle, and if you’re not connected, you don’t exist? If we teach adab, amanah, and ihsan, where do those values go behind the scenes?

We also zoom out. This isn’t just a scholar problem. We’ve seen the same patterns with Islamic organizations, Muslim professionals, and even clients. Promises made casually. Accountability treated as optional.

This episode isn’t about canceling anyone. It’s about standards. About showing up. About why our community especially singles deserves better than mediocrity dressed up as good intentions.

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Diary of a MatchmakerBy Halal Match