But in spiritual matchmaking there's a different law at play, we cannot conjure up desire in our own strength. It also says that we can't formula our way to relationship. We can't perform our way to wonder and mystery. And that wisdom is not a currency to count before fellow church members nor is information the path to a deep rooted love. It can be a part of the path, learning the topography, learning the facts on the ground.

And sure, we can chase desire like a couple in marriage counseling positioning ourselves in the flow of first things, but we can't perform our way into connection. We can't tick off a to-do list and create communion.

God is not a destination or a list of truths to dominate. God is a Person.