God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. -Reinhold Niebuhr

Different People, Different Tastes

What do you find attractive? What does your best friend find attractive? Chances are there are some things that you both find attractive and some things one of you finds attractive the other does not.

No two people have exactly the same tastes in anything. This is especially true about who they find attractive and what they find attractive about them. Sometimes even when people agree that someone is attractive, they will disagree on what exactly it is that makes them attractive.

Some Things Are (Almost) Universal

There are some things (almost) everyone finds attractive. Almost all women want a husband who is slightly taller than them. Almost all men want a wife who likes sex – a lot. Almost all women want a man who can express his feelings to them. Almost all men want a woman who will not press them to express their feelings – ever.

And of course, (almost) everyone wants someone who is physically fit, mentally sharp, successful, admired by their peers, articulate, good in bed, makes lots of money, has a likable personality, looks good naked, cooks like their mom, and has a great sense of humor.

That’s not too much to ask – is it?

Some Things Are Very Individual

You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time. -Abraham Lincoln

There is a reason Baskin-Robbins advertises 31 flavors. There is a reason there are thousands of different cheeses, musical genres, models of automobiles, and shoe manufacturers. In fact, I recently came across an article titled 20 Great Shades of White Paint {and some to avoid}. Apparently, people can’t even agree on white paint!

There are over seven billion (7,000,000,000) people on the planet currently and each one has a unique combination of DNA, life experience, and heritage. This leads to billions of different styles, tastes, and preferences.

My point is – there will always be people who find you attractive and people who do not. You will not be equally attractive to a Country Music fan and an Opera fan. You will not be equally attractive to someone who prefers blue eyes and someone who prefers green eyes.

And that’s okay. With over seven billion people in the world, there are enough people out there who prefer someone like you to make it possible for anyone to find a match. This is true no matter how odd your combination of traits. I know, because I am a very weird combination and I managed to attract a mate.

Some Things You Can Change

First the good news – there are lots of things you can change about yourself.

For instance, it is never too late to become better educated. You can always, and should, read books, watch videos, and take courses to better yourself. This can trickle down into other areas. It can help you become smarter, more successful, and a better conversationalist.

And, the easiest and biggest improvement is to change your attitude. You can absolutely be more positive, loving, patient, and kind. Those changes are doable and (most) people find those things very attractive.

Remember, it’s never too late to get in better shape, develop your sense of humor, develop relationship skills, learn to handle money and time better, improve your grooming habits, perfect your personal style, and overall become more likable. As you change your mindset, gain knowledge and put it into practice, a better, more attractive you emerges.

Now, about being taller …

Some Things You Cannot Change

You do have a limited ability to change some things.