Give It To Me Bi

How to be bisexual in a monogamous relationship


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We're back. Season 2 is here and we are straight into it. Well, not straight...


This week we're tackling one of the most requested topics in the history of this show: how do you stay connected to your bi+ identity when you're in a monogamous relationship? And what does your partner actually need to know?


Whether you've ever thought maybe I'm not bi enough because I'm in a relationship, or you're a partner trying to figure out how to show up, this one's for both of you.


In this episode:

  • Attraction, identity and relationship agreement are three completely different things. We use Robyn Ochs' definition of bisexuality to unpack why the "scorecard" question is the wrong question entirely — and who keeps asking for it.
  • Mixed orientation relationships. What happens when one person in a relationship is bi+ and the other isn't, and why the unspoken agreement is almost always the most dangerous one.
  • For the partner listening. Your bi+ person isn't afraid of you. They're afraid of everything the world has told you about them. There's a difference and it matters.
  • The research is clear. Partner acceptance doesn't just make bi+ people feel better. It makes relationships better. We get into why.
  • Chad's personal story. Coming out to his late partner Heidi mid-relationship — the rupture it created, the conversations that followed, and how it became one of the greatest joys of his life.
  • And more!


Monogamy does not cancel bisexuality. Non-monogamy does not prove it.


Links:

  • Join the Give It To Me Bi community
  • Follow us on Instagram
  • Star Observer column


Give It To Me Bi acknowledges that we live and work on Gadigal land. We pay our respects to elders past and present. Sovereignty was never ceded.

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