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How to be Nice (and Mean it!) - Ep. 435
Having a sense of fun and play can help you be pleasant,
While still taking things seriously, which can mean a lot in some cases.
The three main things to do are to Agree, Encourage and be Present,
That way you won’t pick a fight, but instead stay in people’s good graces.
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Ep. 435 - How to be Nice (and Mean it!)
We begin as always
with the Happy Creed.
We believe in Happy,
in Balance and Growth,
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.
Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!
I’ve been a waiter, a babysitter, a tutor and a volunteer,
I’ve been a little brother, a confidant, and an event emcee,
I’ve been an office assistant, a retail clerk, and one thing remains clear,
Things go much smoother depending on how Nice you can be.
It helps you get along with others and even make friends,
But doesn’t always work since some folks are just itching to fight,
But even they can sometimes be won over, it really depends
On how sincere you are about being Nice, it’s gotta feel right.
Having a sense of fun and play can help you be pleasant,
While still taking things seriously, which can mean a lot in some cases.
The three main things to do are to Agree, Encourage and be Present,
That way you won’t pick a fight, but instead stay in people’s good graces.
When you Agree, it’s not about just saying yes, but finding common ground,
It’s about accepting people as they are, and being fair and clear in your dealings,
This can work on young and old alike, finding ways to connect not to confound,
But just be aware that not everyone appreciates such friendly feelings.
When you Encourage, you should avoid idle flattery, but instead be specific,
So, it helps if you pay attention and be respectful of the goals they hold dear,
Then you’ll have a better sense of want kind of feedback they’d consider terrific,
And you can provide words of hope with genuine feelings of good cheer.
And when you’re being Present, you’re listening, and reading the room,
You’re showing an interest in the other person to get them to open up more,
You’re being mindful, which allows you to adapt quickly--just, like “boom!”
Because you’re agile, on your toes, ready to switch, jump, take off and soar.
I routinely have long conversations with people I just met, on a bus, or a plane,
Because I am Present, I find ways to Agree, and offer Encouragement too,
You don’t have to kiss their butt to say something positive--never praise in vain,
But be genuine, you can say you don’t get it, and let them explain it to you.
It helps if you like people, of course, but sometimes it can still work even so,
Even if you have to tell folks bad news--add a reason, and end with something good,
Break it to them honestly, tell them why, and provide a spark of hope before they go,
Wouldn’t you like to connect with someone Nice? I know I sure would.
Haha
Yowza
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By Geoffrey Bennett Ulrich
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Having a sense of fun and play can help you be pleasant,
While still taking things seriously, which can mean a lot in some cases.
The three main things to do are to Agree, Encourage and be Present,
That way you won’t pick a fight, but instead stay in people’s good graces.
[full text below]
Ep. 435 - How to be Nice (and Mean it!)
We begin as always
with the Happy Creed.
We believe in Happy,
in Balance and Growth,
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.
Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!
I’ve been a waiter, a babysitter, a tutor and a volunteer,
I’ve been a little brother, a confidant, and an event emcee,
I’ve been an office assistant, a retail clerk, and one thing remains clear,
Things go much smoother depending on how Nice you can be.
It helps you get along with others and even make friends,
But doesn’t always work since some folks are just itching to fight,
But even they can sometimes be won over, it really depends
On how sincere you are about being Nice, it’s gotta feel right.
Having a sense of fun and play can help you be pleasant,
While still taking things seriously, which can mean a lot in some cases.
The three main things to do are to Agree, Encourage and be Present,
That way you won’t pick a fight, but instead stay in people’s good graces.
When you Agree, it’s not about just saying yes, but finding common ground,
It’s about accepting people as they are, and being fair and clear in your dealings,
This can work on young and old alike, finding ways to connect not to confound,
But just be aware that not everyone appreciates such friendly feelings.
When you Encourage, you should avoid idle flattery, but instead be specific,
So, it helps if you pay attention and be respectful of the goals they hold dear,
Then you’ll have a better sense of want kind of feedback they’d consider terrific,
And you can provide words of hope with genuine feelings of good cheer.
And when you’re being Present, you’re listening, and reading the room,
You’re showing an interest in the other person to get them to open up more,
You’re being mindful, which allows you to adapt quickly--just, like “boom!”
Because you’re agile, on your toes, ready to switch, jump, take off and soar.
I routinely have long conversations with people I just met, on a bus, or a plane,
Because I am Present, I find ways to Agree, and offer Encouragement too,
You don’t have to kiss their butt to say something positive--never praise in vain,
But be genuine, you can say you don’t get it, and let them explain it to you.
It helps if you like people, of course, but sometimes it can still work even so,
Even if you have to tell folks bad news--add a reason, and end with something good,
Break it to them honestly, tell them why, and provide a spark of hope before they go,
Wouldn’t you like to connect with someone Nice? I know I sure would.
Haha
Yowza