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How to be vulnerable in your relationships
Many people have advised the need for you to be vulnerable because of the benefits this has on your intimacy and income. By being vulnerable you open yourself to become closer to people. It creates connection. Connection is good if you want to have deeper relationships.
The concept of being vulnerable is great if you are comfortable with vulnerability. Most people are not, and that’s okay. If you are one of these people, I don’t advise vulnerability because you if you are not used to it then you perceive the act of sharing intimate parts of yourself as expressing your insecurity.
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The expression of insecurity invites people to give their opinion about where you are going wrong and why you have an insecurity. They believe they are helping you by advising you. But it wounds you further because you are already insecure about the topic. So you become resentful and put up bigger barriers.
Vulnerability requires you to trust that the person, who you are expressing your insecurity to, is a safe person that you can confide in. Trust that they are someone who will not judge you, and who will support you.
So how do you overcome this hurdle?
Be highly selective. Choose people that make you feel safe and secure.
There are one or two people that you will be able to trust. you feel safe with them already so be vulnerable with them. It’s easier to expect a good outcome when you are with someone who you know is safe to be around.
For everyone else, enhance your authenticity. Authenticity is a place where you feel comfortable to freely express yourself. Being authentic opens you up to expressing more of who you are.
Because no energy is spent on protecting or guarding yourself, you are free to listen to what they have to say. You can take it on if you like it, or discard it if you don’t. The feeling of safety and security has to come from within. You are way more influential about how people treat you than you know.
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0:00 Introduction
0:27 The problem with being vulnerable
1:16 How to overcome it
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Many people have advised the need for you to be vulnerable because of the benefits this has on your intimacy and income. By being vulnerable you open yourself to become closer to people. It creates connection. Connection is good if you want to have deeper relationships.
The concept of being vulnerable is great if you are comfortable with vulnerability. Most people are not, and that’s okay. If you are one of these people, I don’t advise vulnerability because you if you are not used to it then you perceive the act of sharing intimate parts of yourself as expressing your insecurity.
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https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/
Online learning
https://rossanneclay.com/shop
Contact
Spotify Podcast
https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW...
For a support community
https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA
The expression of insecurity invites people to give their opinion about where you are going wrong and why you have an insecurity. They believe they are helping you by advising you. But it wounds you further because you are already insecure about the topic. So you become resentful and put up bigger barriers.
Vulnerability requires you to trust that the person, who you are expressing your insecurity to, is a safe person that you can confide in. Trust that they are someone who will not judge you, and who will support you.
So how do you overcome this hurdle?
Be highly selective. Choose people that make you feel safe and secure.
There are one or two people that you will be able to trust. you feel safe with them already so be vulnerable with them. It’s easier to expect a good outcome when you are with someone who you know is safe to be around.
For everyone else, enhance your authenticity. Authenticity is a place where you feel comfortable to freely express yourself. Being authentic opens you up to expressing more of who you are.
Because no energy is spent on protecting or guarding yourself, you are free to listen to what they have to say. You can take it on if you like it, or discard it if you don’t. The feeling of safety and security has to come from within. You are way more influential about how people treat you than you know.
Chapters
0:00 Introduction
0:27 The problem with being vulnerable
1:16 How to overcome it