If you have been working on reaching a goal or manifesting a particular outcome, this process is for you. We can take as much outward action as we want, however, until our internal environment lines up with the outward outcome, we will not be able to entirely reach our finish line, or if we do get there through struggle and might, we likely will not be able to maintain the change for very long (you may have noticed how challenges or diets don't create lasting change).

This is because when things are incongruent between our mindset and our physical actions, there is too much of a push and pull, and our experience will always result in a turbulent journey full of bumps and u-turns, which results in feelings of defeat and even worse, unworthiness. 

In order to have a smoother ride, and actually reach the destination we're aiming for, we need to find congruence between our internal framework and our external actions. When we do this, all parts of ourselves are working together, instead of against each other. When we do this, we are a match for what we want, and things work out much smoother and quicker.

Becoming a match to what you want really means you're thinking, acting, and feeling as someone who already has what it is that you want.

In this episode Pavan details her step-by-step process in which you learn how to think, feel, and act like the version of yourself that is already living your desire.

Our current beliefs are like an operating system, when we become a match to what we want, we essentially upgrade our operating system to match that outcome.

Learn to create lasting change in your mindset and habits by upgrading your operating system so that it matches the version of you that has the outcome you want.

Steps include:

• ​Identifying what you want and how that would feel
• ​Reflecting upon what that version of you who already has that thinks, feels, and acts
• ​Identifying the self talk of this version of yourself
• ​Creating affirmations from the self talk
• ​Repeating the affirmations with feeling, until this way of thinking, feeling, and being becomes your natural and most dominant way of being
• ​Being kind and patient with yourself as you evolve through this process
• ​Ease the discomfort that accompanies change and growth
• ​Becoming the match

Download the reflection page here: https://interiorloveaffair.com/2025/03/how-to-become-a-match-to-what-you-want/

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