In this episode of the Becoming You podcast, I talk about one of my most commonly requested topics: How to become a more confident you.

What is “self-confidence”, exactly?

Self-confidence is your own, personal view on how likely you are to accomplish a goal.

There are areas in your life that you are more confident in than others.

Self-confidence versus self-esteem

Self-esteem is your overall view of your worth.

“I’m a good person” is a self-esteem statement. Confidence in certain areas can boost your self-esteem, but not necessarily.

What self-confidence gives (and doesn’t give) us

The more confidence we have, the more resilient and the happier we feel.

Confidence gives us the willingness to take more risks in life. And when you take more risks, you open yourself up to more rewards.

You don’t necessarily need to be good at something to be confident at doing it.

Confidence is an inside job... and it’s a job that takes time.

Considering all this, it’s clear that external rewards and validation do not always lead to more confidence.

Nor will confidence come all at once. You won’t wake up one morning and feel magically confident all of a sudden.

Confidence comes in little doses and, before you know it, it’s like you’re a totally new person with a fresh, powerful outlook on and approach to life.

So, with all that out of the way, how exactly do you build confidence? Here are my top tips:

Tip #1: Celebrate every small step you take and every small win you experience.

As the saying goes, “It’s not about the destination, but the journey.”

It may be a cliché, but that’s only because it’s true.

If you want to build your confidence over time, you have to stop and celebrate every tiny win, no matter how insignificant it may seem.

Embrace the fact that you’re learning, growing, and becoming more competent every step of the way.

Tip #2: Accept your flaws, fully.

It’s natural to want to hide parts of ourselves that we think are imperfect.

I’ve found that it’s so powerful to own who you are by talking about your flaws if the situation presents itself.

Tip #3: Look back at how far you’ve gotten in life instead of looking at how far you have left to go.

I don’t know a single person who has gotten everything they’ve ever wanted out of life.

Be proud of yourself by celebrating how far you’ve come. That will give you the confidence you need to push forward.

Tip #4: You can be confident and still be a work-in-progress.

I think a lot of us are under the impression that, if we have any self-doubt whatsoever, that means we’re not confident.

There’s room for many, many, many emotions to coexist within you at any given moment.

That’s what it means to be human.

Tip #5: Get out of the house.

This is even more important during these challenging times.

Experiencing new things is an easy way to gain more confidence.

Tip #6: Move your body.

I invite you to get out of your head and into your body.

When we live with our limiting beliefs, we completely disconnect from our bodies from the neck-down.

Our bodies hold so much wisdom.

Tip #7: Do something that makes you feel uncomfortable every single day.

This can be as tiny as finishing up a hot shower by turning on the ice-cold water (if this is something you’re not already used to doing, of course).

This is a great practice for shattering limiting beliefs. Notice the discomfort, then do the damn thing anyway.

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