My Queer Life

How To Break A Bad Habit

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How To Break A Bad Habit: LGBT Style

Everyone’s got at least one bad habit.

Researching the top 6 personal bad habits, this is what I came across:

  1. Complaining.
  2. Addictions – be it smoking, food, alcohol, drugs, shopping. You get the idea.
  3. Blaming others instead of taking responsibility.
  4. Always apologising – saying sorry before you speak or before you do something.
  5. Interrupting people mid-sentence.
  6. Nail biting.

    7. Nodding your head at any of those?

    Another place bad habits can show up is in relationships.

    The following 6 bad habits in relationships have been reported on many occasions to be the reason for couples breaking up.

    1. Your partner’s behaviour. Does it drive you nuts when your honey leaves the dirty dishes in the sink? What about toothpaste etiquette or dirty laundry.
    2. Waiting for your partner to initiate affection and intimacy.
    3. Taking your partner for granted and not appreciating them.
    4. Being on devices sat in front of the TV instead of being present with your honey.
    5. Criticising or being negative towards your partner, their work or family.
    6. Not talking about the things that are bothering you. You would rather bottle it up than air it with your partner.

      7. Any of those resonate with you?

      You wouldn’t be on your own – I can say yes to ALL of those. How about you?

      Seriously, I can say yes to ALL of those.

      Let me take you back 12 years ago. I was in the early days of a new relationship with my girlfriend. I was addicted to partying, smoking and drinking. I didn’t take responsibility for my life and making decisions. I just didn’t make them.

      I WAS that person that would moan, complain and gossip in the office with my colleagues. People would go out of their way to not be around me. That was me.

      I had MANY personal bad habits and even more bad habits in relationships. I was pretty rubbish at being in a relationship to be honest. I hated conflict so when there was tension, I would bury my head in the sand. I was the ONE with the behaviour traits driving my honey nuts. I had no idea about positive thinking or any of that stuff – I was always criticising or negative about what was going on.

      So what happened?

      Well, I realised I needed to be different. To be in a loving and connected relationship. To be around people. And to be comfortable with myself. Something needed to change.

      Let me talk you through the 3 step-method I used to break all of those bad habits.

      Step 1. Identify what your bad habits are. List them all. Personal, relationship based, social ones, work ones. Write them all down. Then pi

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