“On paper, I looked good, but internally I was still all jacked up.”

In this episode, Nick speaks with Pauline Jones (PJ) to explore the profound effects of trauma on personal development and healing. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, the impact of generational trauma, and the necessity of understanding how trauma manifests in the body. PJ shares her journey through therapy and alternative healing modalities, emphasizing that healing is a unique process for everyone. The conversation highlights the significance of mindfulness and mental health strategies in overcoming past traumas and achieving self-mastery.

What to listen for:

How being close to death and trauma can bring us to an unsuspecting yet healing place

Generational trauma can be hidden in more ways than just family secrets

Trauma shapes our reactions and responses

Self-awareness is essential for healing

Healing is a unique journey for each individual, and our personal growth requires ongoing effort and reflection

“I left the abuse, but I didn’t leave the trauma.”

Walking away from a harmful situation is just the first step and often the hardest

Trauma can stay with someone long after the abuse ends, influencing how they think, feel, and react in future situations

Just because the abuser is gone doesn’t mean the impact they had on your life disappears

Therapy, self-care, and ongoing support are so very important to truly healing after leaving an abusive relationship

The process of identifying and working through trauma is essential for long-term emotional freedom, not just physical separation

“I was just here to be abused because my mom taught me that, and society reinforced it.”

Sometimes, the beliefs and behaviors we inherit from our family can set us up for harmful patterns in adulthood

Society often normalizes unhealthy dynamics, making abuse seem “acceptable” or “normal” for some people

Growing up with these messages can deeply affect your sense of self-worth, making it harder to believe you deserve better

Abuse is often cyclical, passed down through generations until someone decides to break that pattern

Breaking free from conditioning: Acknowledging and unlearning these harmful lessons can be a critical step in personal empowerment and healing

“And it was just kind of messed up because we were going to church every day with this man. My mom let us live this life, but he abused you, and you didn’t think he was trying to abuse us?”

Abuse often happens in places where trust and safety should be top priority, and that contradiction can make it harder to process

Sometimes, parents or caregivers may be so caught in their own pain that they don’t recognize or acknowledge the harm their children might be experiencing

Complex emotions for someone’s abuser can also be part of the “normal” family structure or community

Abuse can disrupt and damage entire family systems, often leaving lasting confusion and pain

About Pauline Jones

Pauline Jones “PJ” is a trauma survivor, coach, and the host of “Insights of a Survivor,” a podcast where she share stories of resilience and growth to inspire others. After overcoming significant challenges in her own life, she now helps individuals heal from trauma and rewrite their personal narratives. Her mission is to empower others to transform their pain into purpose and embrace their inner strength.

https://sites.google.com/view/soulfulresiliencejourney

https://www.linkedin.com/in/p-j-bb629b320/

https://www.instagram.com/soulfulresiliencejourney/

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