You cannot have a healthy relationship without trust. And a lot of times we get into new relationships, both friendships & romantic ones, & reflect on times when our trust was broken & carry that baggage into the next relationship. This is why I wanted to chat about building trust for the first time & also add in some tips if you need to rebuild trust after someone has broken it. 

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And I just want to make sure we all understand that it’s ok to make people earn your trust. There is no reason why someone should automatically be trusted from the jump. And this doesn’t mean you can’t be nice to someone just because trust hasn’t been established yet. But just take your time with relying on them, them keeping their word & believing they are who they seem until trust is demonstrated & it feels right. (and even then we can be wrong, that’s just life)

But as many of you know, you cannot have a healthy relationship without trust. And a lot of times when we get into new relationships, again both friendships & romantic ones, we reflect back on times when our trust was broken & carry that baggage into the next relationship. We all know this doesn’t help anyone. So I thought it would be helpful to chat about building trust for the first time & also add in some tips if you need to rebuild trust after someone has broken it. Because forgiveness is also very important & second chances can be good if the circumstances agree.

Really quick, before we dive into the tips, let's make sure we know why having trust in relationships is important:

• Trust reduces conflict (trust will allow you to overlook issues that come up & be more willing to figure things out & problem-solve whatever is going on).
• You become closer (trust creates stronger bonds & increased feelings of being safe).
• Forgiveness increases (everyone makes mistakes, so when there is trust, it’s easier to forgive someone & move forward in the relationship because you trust they still care about you & are apologetic).

Here are 7 ways to build trust in relationships & also work on rebuilding trust when it’s been broken:

1. Build trust gradually & don’t expect too much too quickly. (take it as slow as you need to)
2. Be transparent in your thoughts, feelings & intentions. Authenticity is key. (don’t pretend to be someone you’re not & have thoughts that don’t reflect you)
3. Take responsibility for what you do (even if it hurts the other person, be honest) & how you act towards the other person. (don’t project or blame the other person for things that are your fault)
4. Follow through in your commitments. (don’t make promises you can’t keep)
5. Be understanding with empathy (the ability to understand someone else & share someone else’s feelings/be sensitive to how they are feeling), compassion & genuine interest.
6. Be helpful to others (your kindness towards others can demonstrate trustworthiness by being authentic with others).
7. Practice self-respect/Respect increases trust (know & live by your personal values, don’t be wishy-washy but proud of who you are & are becoming).

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