December 13, 2019

How To Calm Your Divorce Overwhelm

7 minutes

For today's topic we're going to talk about how you can calm your divorce overwhelmed. So, virtually everyone who either decides to get a divorce or their spouse throws it on them has that moment of panic when they realize that they don't understand the legal system. They don't know how they are going to go about their divorce, and they want their legal bases covered. If they have children, they want to make sure they're protected, but really just feel paralyzed in fear. So, this podcast episode is really for the people that are just starting the process and need a little extra support along the way. I always tell people when you are trying to figure out where to start, start with you. Reach out to your support system or even build a new one. It could be as simple as joining a Facebook group for divorcing people or an online support group through DivorceForce or Meetup.

When you're determining how to do divorce, I have a few tips for you. So, first of all, you're going to want to take the process step-by-step. You're going to need to learn to get comfortable in transition, because the process is a marathon, not a sprint. Unless there's an emergency, virtually nothing happens overnight. It takes a while to get through your divorce, even if it's uncontested, and so I want you to take it step-by-step. I also want you to take a deep breath and know that you have time to wrap your head around this and get through it in the best way possible.

The next thing that I usually tell people who are feeling overwhelmed is to educate yourself about the divorce process and how it works in your state. If you're in California, head over to Hello Divorce. You can take a look or download our California divorce flow chart. It breaks down divorce start to finish. Also, check the Hello Divorce site regularly if you live in Texas or Arizona, where we're going to be launching quite soon. Then I want you to consider your options. There's so many ways to work through the process. At Hello Divorce, you can use our divorce navigator. Erin Levine:

It's kind of like a TurboTax for a divorce, where you work through all the forms step-by-step on your own.

We also have do it for you options and we have legal coaches on standby, so if you don't want to lawyer up in the traditional sense of the word, where you pay a big retainer and potentially freak your spouse out, then using a illegal coach, either through Hello Divorce with our Levine family law group lawyers or someone in your locale, can be a really great option if your case is mildly contested, uncontested, or you're working with a mediator. Another great option if you and your spouse expect to have some conflict, but really are determined to work things out on your own, is to use a mediator. A third party, neutral mediator is going to help you with all the issues that might come up in your divorce, kids, support, property and debt division and help you come to a full agreement on all those issues.

A couple of other things that seem to come up for our clients in terms of their overwhelm is whether or not you'll have to go to court, and my legal answer is it depends. Some States require you to go to court to actually formalize and finalize your divorce, but in those cases, assuming you have a full agreement, it's really more of a formality, and it's kind of a pain, in that you have to schedule it, show up for court, wait to be called, and have the judge ask you a bunch of questions, but fortunately it's not a contentious hearing....

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