When Friends Come Over

How To Carry & Communicate Expectations

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This conversation is about Expectations - why we have them, how to set and communicate them, how to let go of past disappointments and when you need to reinvent them. 


0.50: Why do we have Expectations? 

  • Expectations are what we assign our assumptions and experiences too. 


    • 2.50: What is your opinion on low vs high expectations when it comes to friendships? 

    • It’s about having realistic expectations of people going through different seasons 


      • 4.47: When is it healthy to start having expectations? 

      • It’s never too early to set some expectations 
      • Having intentional expectations 
      • When you start having consistency and routine within friendships 
      • Asking questions will help to navigate clear expectations. 


        • 9.23: How do you communicate your expectations within your friendships? 

        • Get good at asking better questions! 
        • It’s about opening a dialogue to have both your expectations heard. 


          • 11.45: How do you stop from serving the other persons expectations more than your own? 

          • The scales will always hopefully level out… 
          • Friendship don’t always have to be 50/50. 
          • You have to recognise if you are being self sabotaged 


            • 13.08: Let’s unpack what unspoken expectations look like in friendships? 

            • Expectations unfold naturally within friendships 
            • They can work like a personal roadmap 
            • Be willing to talk about it. 


              • 18.15: Asking your friends what their expectations are of you? 

              • And check if you are ok with it. 


                • 18.42: Scenario…Reinventing yourself in friendships and communicating your new expectations? 

                • It’s hard, but it is an invitation to open the communication and let them show up. 
                • Express your needs! 
                • It’s creating a space of vulnerability 


                  • 23.40: Celebrating expectations within relationships, and how to find the balance of knowing which relationships they are for? 

                  • Knowing people’s personalities will help cater to different situations 


                    • 25.12: How do you stop the energy of past disappointments / let downs of expectations not affect future relational expectations? 

                    • It takes self awareness 
                    • Learning to hold expectations with an open hand (nothing good can get into a closed hand). 
                    • Having a foundation of expectations and leaving it open to be added to. 


                      • Have and set expectations for the people in your world. 


                      32.22: What would you say to someone who wants to let go of past hurts, any journal / question prompts? 

                      • Put a name / label on them! 


                        • 34.12: practical tips for communicating expectations at gatherings? 

                        • Know your audience on how to best show up for them. 


                          • 36.16: what has been a lesson that has really helped you in expectations? 

                          • Expect people to show you who they are and say what they mean.
                          • Create environments where people can show up fully. 



                            • Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey.

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