We need to talk” are undoubtedly four of the scariest words to hear from a spouse. They conjure up the idea that something isn’t right. They are words that precipitate some of the most difficult conversations between couples. That being said, knowing how to communicate with your spouse is going to be an important factor, if you are going to effectively deal with whatever issue(s) you may be confronted with at the moment. Here are my top three tips in being a more effective communicator.