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How to Deal When the People Around Us Donโt Believe In Our Goals
I was pondering the question I get often. How to deal with the people around us not believing in us or doubting our goals and dreams??
I had this epiphany, What if itโs not others doubting at all, what if itโs them saying what WE actually think, and it feels like them doubting us, but itโs really US DOUBTING US! I have been reading a ton about confirmation biases and itโs others(family, friends) confirming what we deep down believe about ourselves. Now we blame others for not believing in us, when itโs really us doubting us. So, what we need to do is ask the better question. Reframe it from THEY donโt believe in me and askโฆ.Do I believe in me!
I know that when I am convicted to my goal, it doesnโt matter what others think, it has no effect on me, my behavior or my belief!
Confidence is ONLY EARNED. You do that by showing up for yourself everyday, proving to yourself you can learn anything, thus you can have anything because the next level of you, you will have to learn something new. If thatโs your focus then others words and biases will not have that effect! It will remove the need for others to approve you or your goals because YOU will be proving to yourself, and being the approval you are seeking! Be your own approval! Be responsible for your outcomes!
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I was pondering the question I get often. How to deal with the people around us not believing in us or doubting our goals and dreams??
I had this epiphany, What if itโs not others doubting at all, what if itโs them saying what WE actually think, and it feels like them doubting us, but itโs really US DOUBTING US! I have been reading a ton about confirmation biases and itโs others(family, friends) confirming what we deep down believe about ourselves. Now we blame others for not believing in us, when itโs really us doubting us. So, what we need to do is ask the better question. Reframe it from THEY donโt believe in me and askโฆ.Do I believe in me!
I know that when I am convicted to my goal, it doesnโt matter what others think, it has no effect on me, my behavior or my belief!
Confidence is ONLY EARNED. You do that by showing up for yourself everyday, proving to yourself you can learn anything, thus you can have anything because the next level of you, you will have to learn something new. If thatโs your focus then others words and biases will not have that effect! It will remove the need for others to approve you or your goals because YOU will be proving to yourself, and being the approval you are seeking! Be your own approval! Be responsible for your outcomes!
Connect with Jeremy and Optimal Self:
Links: (We LOVE to be tagged in your posts, please share our content and tag us!)
- Main Page: www.OptimalSelf.Today - Links to our Podcast, all social media, PLUS join our Private Facebook Group, Free "Identity Creator" Course, and more!
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAkydziqrlYZIFmOgD1kTPA
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OptimalSelf1
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/optimal_self/
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@optimalself