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How to Deal with Family Trauma
Gbotemi Babatunde, a clinical psychologist, discusses intergenerational trauma and how unresolved trauma affects child-parent relationships. Babatunde explains trauma as complex and subjective, noting that unprocessed experiences can shape perceptions, trigger protective responses, and be unintentionally transferred to children through modeling, emotional distance, overcontrol, and difficulties with co-regulation. She describes how children seek safety and love, and how parents may focus on material provision while missing emotional needs. In infant mental health, she emphasizes working with parents by exploring their "angels and ghosts in the nursery" to understand parenting patterns and child behavior. Healing begins with awareness, processing painful memories, forgiveness, coping with triggers, intentionality, and repairing ruptures, including apologizing to children; she notes ongoing challenges with teenagers and adult children when control and connection break down.
Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome and Topic Setup
00:43 Meet the Clinical Psychologist
02:39 What Intergenerational Trauma Means
04:55 Unresolved Trauma and Body Memory
07:33 How Parents Pass Pain Down
10:26 Kids Need Safety and Love
11:08 Infant Mental Health Explained
12:26 Ghosts and Angels Framework
13:31 When Behavior Problems Show Up
14:22 Parent as the Starting Point
15:05 Childhood Stories Shape Parenting
18:09 Finding Balance as a Parent
18:45 Good Enough Parenting and Awareness
20:36 Trauma Control and Triggers
21:14 Beyond Quick Fixes
21:42 Kids Want Connection
22:35 Needs Beyond Basics
23:12 Living With Intention
23:54 Healing Through Awareness
26:43 Forgiveness And Reparenting
28:33 Managing Triggers Daily
29:31 Teen Autonomy Clashes
33:27 Repair And Apologies
35:28 Wrap Up And Contacts
Get In Touch:
If you're interested in connecting with Gbotemi Babatunde, you can reach her via her email ([email protected]), via Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/alorogbotemi), or via her LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/gbotemi-bukola-babatunde-ba933111b/).
For those interested in sharing their own stories on "Chatting with the Experts," reach out to Paula Okonneh through her website at chattingwiththeexperts.com or connect via LinkedIn.
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Gbotemi Babatunde, a clinical psychologist, discusses intergenerational trauma and how unresolved trauma affects child-parent relationships. Babatunde explains trauma as complex and subjective, noting that unprocessed experiences can shape perceptions, trigger protective responses, and be unintentionally transferred to children through modeling, emotional distance, overcontrol, and difficulties with co-regulation. She describes how children seek safety and love, and how parents may focus on material provision while missing emotional needs. In infant mental health, she emphasizes working with parents by exploring their "angels and ghosts in the nursery" to understand parenting patterns and child behavior. Healing begins with awareness, processing painful memories, forgiveness, coping with triggers, intentionality, and repairing ruptures, including apologizing to children; she notes ongoing challenges with teenagers and adult children when control and connection break down.
Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome and Topic Setup
00:43 Meet the Clinical Psychologist
02:39 What Intergenerational Trauma Means
04:55 Unresolved Trauma and Body Memory
07:33 How Parents Pass Pain Down
10:26 Kids Need Safety and Love
11:08 Infant Mental Health Explained
12:26 Ghosts and Angels Framework
13:31 When Behavior Problems Show Up
14:22 Parent as the Starting Point
15:05 Childhood Stories Shape Parenting
18:09 Finding Balance as a Parent
18:45 Good Enough Parenting and Awareness
20:36 Trauma Control and Triggers
21:14 Beyond Quick Fixes
21:42 Kids Want Connection
22:35 Needs Beyond Basics
23:12 Living With Intention
23:54 Healing Through Awareness
26:43 Forgiveness And Reparenting
28:33 Managing Triggers Daily
29:31 Teen Autonomy Clashes
33:27 Repair And Apologies
35:28 Wrap Up And Contacts
Get In Touch:
If you're interested in connecting with Gbotemi Babatunde, you can reach her via her email ([email protected]), via Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/alorogbotemi), or via her LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/gbotemi-bukola-babatunde-ba933111b/).
For those interested in sharing their own stories on "Chatting with the Experts," reach out to Paula Okonneh through her website at chattingwiththeexperts.com or connect via LinkedIn.