In this episode, Andrew and Catherine dive into one of the most common (and confusing) questions people face during personal growth: Who am I actually becoming?

If you feel like something needs to change but you can’t quite name what, you’re not broken — you’re lacking clarity, not motivation. This conversation walks through how to identify the quiet clues your future self is already giving you, how to separate who you are from who you were taught to be, and how to decide who you are without pressure, panic, or blowing your life up.

Key Topics Covered

1. Why most people don’t change because of lack of clarity, not lack of motivation
2. The difference between being “lost” and being ready for alignment
3. How societal expectations shape identity without us realizing it
4. Why clarity doesn’t come from big decisions — it comes from noticing
5. Learning to listen to your internal voice instead of outside noise
6. How your body signals alignment vs. resistance
7. Why future clarity feels calm, not urgent or euphoric
8. The danger of confusing clarity with certainty
9. How opting out of societal scripts creates freedom
10. What childhood interests reveal about your natural wiring
11. Following energy instead of forcing ambition
12. Why discomfort is one of the best sources of information
13. How to explore identity without needing a full plan
14. Why this process should feel exciting, not heavy

Actionable Takeaways

1. Ask yourself: Who taught me who I should be?
2. Notice what repeatedly energizes you — that’s data.
3. Pay attention to what drains you — that’s data too.
4. Look for patterns, not lightning-bolt realizations.
5. Revisit what you loved as a child without judgment.
6. Separate identity from labels and job titles.
7. Stop waiting for certainty — clarity comes through movement.
8. Take one small step toward what feels aligned.
9. Let calm be your compass, not urgency.
10. Treat this process as exploration, not a test.

Quotes from the Episode“You’re not lost — you’re just listening inward for the first time.”“Clarity doesn’t feel urgent. It feels calm.”“Your future self is already leaving clues in your life.”“You don’t need a full vision — you just need the next honest step.”Glimmers of the Week

Catherine: A surprise thrifting connection that turned into an unexpected, generous wardrobe handoff and a reminder of how aligned energy attracts aligned experiences.

Andrew: Relief from long-term jaw pain after a breakthrough physical therapy session — and the gratitude that comes with living without constant pain.

What’s Next

In the next episode of the Five Year You series, Andrew and Catherine explore how to build habits that align with the person you’re becoming — without forcing discipline or burning out.

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