📄 Episode Description:

Divorce mediation and flat-fee legal strategies can help you avoid court, save thousands, and protect your peace. Learn how to divorce smarter today.

In this episode of Doing Life Different, Lesa Koski interviews New Jersey attorney, mediator, and men’s divorce strategist John Nachlinger. Together, they reveal how the traditional divorce system often profits from your pain—and how you can take back control.

John shares how his flat-fee law firm helps couples resolve their divorce quickly, without unnecessary drama or legal costs. From emotional regulation to co-parenting and coaching, this episode explores how divorce can be done differently—with dignity, strategy, and support.

Whether you’re just starting the divorce process or want to avoid court altogether, this episode will help you understand how to divorce smarter, protect your children, and heal with purpose.

⏱️ Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction to guest John Nachlinger

(02:48) Why John left traditional divorce litigation

(05:35) Flat-fee divorce services vs. hourly billing

(09:12) How mediation speeds up the divorce process

(12:45) When divorce becomes a war—and how to stop it

(17:20) John's personal story of divorce, adoption, and co-parenting

(21:33) Are all exes narcissists? Understanding emotional dynamics

(27:58) Coaching men through divorce and emotional readiness

(32:49) Common mistakes men make during divorce

(37:20) How women can benefit when their ex has a coach

(40:05) The rise of mediation and decline of court dependency

(45:10) Final thoughts on divorce strategy and healing

💡 Key Takeaways:

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• The legal system often profits from family conflict—there is a better way.
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• Flat-fee divorce services help eliminate cost confusion and conflict.
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• Emotional regulation is critical to reaching fair outcomes.
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• Coaching men through divorce leads to healthier co-parenting and faster resolution.
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• Mediation is not just effective—it’s often the smartest choice for families.
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👤 Guest Bio:

John Nachlinger is a New Jersey attorney, mediator, and founder of Net Squire, a flat-fee law firm designed to help clients divorce without destructive court battles. He’s also the creator of the Men’s Divorce Network and host of the podcast Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed. John specializes in coaching men through the emotional and legal complexities of divorce to reach faster, healthier resolutions.

🔗 Resource Links:

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• Net Squire Flat-Fee Divorce
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• Men’s Divorce Network – Support & Coaching
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• Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed Podcast
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• Lesa Koski – Mediation & Coaching
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