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How to find Happiness before Success
In this episode, I explore one of the biggest misconceptions high achievers face: the belief that happiness lives on the other side of the next goal. As real estate agents, entrepreneurs, and ambitious people, it's easy to convince ourselves that we'll finally relax, feel fulfilled, or enjoy life once we close the next deal, earn the next award, or hit the next milestone. But what if that's the trap?
💡 What you'll learn in this episode:
• Why achievement and happiness are not the same thing.
• How constantly moving the goalposts keeps you from enjoying your life.
• The mindfulness concept of "aimlessness" and what it really means.
• Why tying your identity to production creates unnecessary stress.
• Practical ways to stop postponing happiness and find peace in the present.
• How gratitude and presence can fuel sustainable success without burnout.
• Why building a successful business should never come at the cost of your well-being.
This episode is a reminder that ambition doesn't have to disappear for peace to exist. You can continue pursuing excellence while learning to appreciate where you are today. Success is worth chasing, but not if it costs you the ability to enjoy the life you're building along the way.
Whether you're navigating a challenging market, growing your business, or simply feeling like happiness always seems one goal away, I hope this conversation helps you slow down, reconnect with the present, and remember that the life you're waiting to live is already happening.
👉 Subscribe for more conversations at the intersection of real estate and self-mastery.
🔔 Hit the bell to be notified of new episodes.
Links Mentioned:
The Untethered Soul — Michael Singer
https://untetheredsoul.com/
The Surrender Experiment — Michael Singer
https://untetheredsoul.com/the-surrender-experiment
The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk
https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score
The War of Art — Steven Pressfield
https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/
Timestamps:
00:00 - Is Happiness Always One Goal Away?
01:01 - The Trap of Delaying Happiness
02:33 - Achievement vs. Happiness
03:25 - Thich Nhat Hanh and the Idea of Aimlessness
04:55 - Why Real Estate Keeps You Living in the Future
06:20 - The Roller Coaster of Outcome-Based Happiness
06:48 - Chopping Wood, Carrying Water
08:07 - Growing From Happiness vs. Chasing Happiness
09:52 - How to Practice Happiness Right Now
10:52 - Gratitude Is a Better Fuel Than Shame
11:56 - Separate Your Happiness From Your Circumstances
13:13 - Bringing Mindfulness Into Everyday Life
15:08 - The Problem With Real Estate's Success Culture
16:12 - Make Happiness a Present Practice
16:31 - Free Resources and Final Thoughts
Let’s Connect!:
Websites
COACHING https://www.michaelcoxen.com
REAL ESTATE SALES https://www.coxengroup.com/
REAL ESTATE BROKERAGE https://magenta.realestate/
JOIN OUR BROKERAGE https://www.joinmagenta.realestate/
Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindful-agent/id1782575763
https://www.facebook.com/coxengroup/
https://www.instagram.com/michaelcoxen/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelcoxen/
TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@michaelcoxen
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In this episode, I explore one of the biggest misconceptions high achievers face: the belief that happiness lives on the other side of the next goal. As real estate agents, entrepreneurs, and ambitious people, it's easy to convince ourselves that we'll finally relax, feel fulfilled, or enjoy life once we close the next deal, earn the next award, or hit the next milestone. But what if that's the trap?
💡 What you'll learn in this episode:
• Why achievement and happiness are not the same thing.
• How constantly moving the goalposts keeps you from enjoying your life.
• The mindfulness concept of "aimlessness" and what it really means.
• Why tying your identity to production creates unnecessary stress.
• Practical ways to stop postponing happiness and find peace in the present.
• How gratitude and presence can fuel sustainable success without burnout.
• Why building a successful business should never come at the cost of your well-being.
This episode is a reminder that ambition doesn't have to disappear for peace to exist. You can continue pursuing excellence while learning to appreciate where you are today. Success is worth chasing, but not if it costs you the ability to enjoy the life you're building along the way.
Whether you're navigating a challenging market, growing your business, or simply feeling like happiness always seems one goal away, I hope this conversation helps you slow down, reconnect with the present, and remember that the life you're waiting to live is already happening.
👉 Subscribe for more conversations at the intersection of real estate and self-mastery.
🔔 Hit the bell to be notified of new episodes.
Links Mentioned:
The Untethered Soul — Michael Singer
https://untetheredsoul.com/
The Surrender Experiment — Michael Singer
https://untetheredsoul.com/the-surrender-experiment
The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk
https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score
The War of Art — Steven Pressfield
https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/
Timestamps:
00:00 - Is Happiness Always One Goal Away?
01:01 - The Trap of Delaying Happiness
02:33 - Achievement vs. Happiness
03:25 - Thich Nhat Hanh and the Idea of Aimlessness
04:55 - Why Real Estate Keeps You Living in the Future
06:20 - The Roller Coaster of Outcome-Based Happiness
06:48 - Chopping Wood, Carrying Water
08:07 - Growing From Happiness vs. Chasing Happiness
09:52 - How to Practice Happiness Right Now
10:52 - Gratitude Is a Better Fuel Than Shame
11:56 - Separate Your Happiness From Your Circumstances
13:13 - Bringing Mindfulness Into Everyday Life
15:08 - The Problem With Real Estate's Success Culture
16:12 - Make Happiness a Present Practice
16:31 - Free Resources and Final Thoughts
Let’s Connect!:
Websites
COACHING https://www.michaelcoxen.com
REAL ESTATE SALES https://www.coxengroup.com/
REAL ESTATE BROKERAGE https://magenta.realestate/
JOIN OUR BROKERAGE https://www.joinmagenta.realestate/
Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindful-agent/id1782575763
https://www.facebook.com/coxengroup/
https://www.instagram.com/michaelcoxen/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelcoxen/
TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@michaelcoxen