Are you thinking about searching for your birth mom but don’t know where to begin? In this episode, Kim and Heather walk you through how to start the search, who to contact depending on the type of adoption (private, state, or international), and how to approach the conversation with your adoptive parents.

They also cover:

• How to access adoption or court records
• What to know about age requirements and sealed files
• Whether DNA tests like 23andMe or Ancestry can really help
• When to consider hiring an investigator
• Free and paid search tools like AdoptionDatabase.org and ISRR
• Emotional readiness and how to find support during your search

Along the way, Kim and Heather share “Wait, what?” moments about how DNA has changed reunion possibilities and how adoptees can take charge of their search no matter where their adoption began.

Whether you’re just curious or ready to take the first step, this episode offers practical tips, emotional guidance, and trustworthy resources to help you reconnect with your story.

Resources Mentioned:

• AdoptionDatabase.org – Free registry for adoptees and birth parents
• International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR) – Free mutual consent reunion registry
• U.S. Department of State – Intercountry Adoption Search Assistance
• State Adoption Records Offices – Find your state’s contact page
• DNA Testing Resources:
• Ancestry.com/dna
• 23andme.com
• MyHeritage.com/dna