Are you thinking about searching for your birth mom but don’t know where to begin? In this episode, Kim and Heather walk you through how to start the search, who to contact depending on the type of adoption (private, state, or international), and how to approach the conversation with your adoptive parents.

They also cover:

• How to access adoption or court records
• What to know about age requirements and sealed files
• Whether DNA tests like 23andMe or Ancestry can really help
• When to consider hiring an investigator
• Free and paid search tools like AdoptionDatabase.org and ISRR
• Emotional readiness and how to find support during your search

Along the way, Kim and Heather share “Wait, what?” moments about how DNA has changed reunion possibilities and how adoptees can take charge of their search no matter where their adoption began.

Whether you’re just curious or ready to take the first step, this episode offers practical tips, emotional guidance, and trustworthy resources to help you reconnect with your story.

Resources Mentioned:

• AdoptionDatabase.org – Free registry for adoptees and birth parents
• International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR) – Free mutual consent reunion registry
• U.S. Department of State – Intercountry Adoption Search Assistance
• State Adoption Records Offices – Find your state’s contact page
• DNA Testing Resources:
• Ancestry.com/dna
• 23andme.com
• MyHeritage.com/dna

What do faith, family, and the law all have in common? Today on Let’s Talk Adoption, host Kim King sits down with Alice H. Murray — award-winning writer, longtime adoption attorney, and author of God Adopted Us First: Faith Lessons From an Adoption Attorney’s Adventures.

With over three decades of experience guiding adoptive families, Alice shares the joys and challenges of her work, how faith shaped her practice, and the surprising ways humor and miracles showed up in the middle of serious legal moments.

In this heartfelt and hopeful conversation, Kim and Alice discuss:

• What an adoption attorney really does behind the scenes
• How God led Alice into this unique calling
• Common misconceptions about adoption and adoption law
• The connection between spiritual and earthly adoption
• Why humor and faith are powerful tools in the adoption journey

Whether you’re an adoptive parent, birth mom, adoptee, or simply love hearing how God works through ordinary people, this episode will encourage you to see adoption — and your own story — through a lens of grace and purpose.

In this episode of the “Wait, What? Unexpected Things in Adoption” series, Heather and Kim share heartfelt insights from the voices often least heard in adoption — birth mothers.

Discover the surprising “wait, what?!” moments they experience: the mix of deep love and grief, the comfort that open adoption can bring, the empowerment of planning an adoption their way, and the realization that the perfect family for their child truly exists.

You’ll also hear how birth fathers can have a role in the process and how courage, faith, and love guide birth mothers as they make selfless, hope-filled decisions.

Whether you’re an adoptive parent, birth parent, or simply someone who cares about adoption, this episode offers compassion, understanding, and a reminder that adoption isn’t about giving up — it’s about giving love and opportunity.

In this episode of Let’s Talk Adoption with Heather & Kim, we explore those “wait—what?!” moments every adoptee experiences. From realizing many birth moms chose adoption out of love, to understanding that identity grows over time, and that reunion isn’t always the ending imagined — we unpack the layers of adoption and what adoptees wish people knew.



Join us for encouragement, reflection, and a reminder: your story is complex, meaningful, and still unfolding.

Adoption can be one of the most meaningful journeys a family ever takes — but it’s also one of the most confusing. In this episode of Let’s Talk Adoption, Kim and Heather unpack the biggest “Wait, what?” moments that hopeful adoptive parents experience as they begin their journey.

From confusing state laws to open adoption myths, financial questions, and the emotional side no one talks about — they’re breaking it all down with honesty and compassion. You’ll also learn why words matter in adoption, and how understanding the lifelong nature of adoption helps you become a more thoughtful parent.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the fine print, mixed messages, or emotions of adoption, this episode will help you find clarity and confidence as you move forward.

This episode is focused on adoptive parents, but stay tuned for future episodes made especially for birth parents and adoptees.

Infertility, loss, and the waiting that comes before adoption can strain even the strongest marriages. In this episode of Let’s Talk Adoption, Kim and Heather share practical tips and biblical guidance to help couples stay connected, communicate openly, and keep their marriage strong while navigating the journey to parenthood.

From date-night conversation prompts to faith-filled encouragement and actionable ways to process grief together, this episode offers hope and support for couples facing obstacles on the road to adoption.

Whether you’re just starting your journey or already in the process, you’ll walk away inspired to strengthen your marriage, trust God’s timing, and move forward together as a united team.

Scripture shared in this episode:

Mourn with those who mourn. Romans 12:15

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Ephesians 4:2-3

A gentle answer turns away wrath. Proverbs 15:1

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11

Communication is the heartbeat of every adoption journey. In this episode of Let’s Talk Adoption, hosts Kim and Heather dive into the importance of clear, honest conversations on every level—between spouses, with friends and family, with adoption professionals, with your child’s birth mother, and with your child as they grow.

You'll hear practical tips for navigating sensitive conversations, setting healthy boundaries, and building trust at every stage of the process

Whether you’re just beginning your adoption journey or are already matched, this episode will help you strengthen your relationships and create a strong foundation for the road ahead.