The Lighten Up Project

How to Help a Quiet Kid Build Confidence


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Speaker, author, and TEDx alum Jackie Bailey believes no child should ever feel they have nothing worth saying. In this tender Mental Health Month conversation, she shares how breaking a lifelong silence became her own path to healing — and how that same power of voice now helps quiet, overwhelmed young people discover they belong and have something the world needs to hear.

What You'll Hear

  • Why so many "quiet" kids aren't shy at all — they simply aren't sure what they have to contribute, and how Jackie helps them find their aha moment
  • The Dale Carnegie principle Jackie shares with every lonely student: stop waiting for people to be interested in you, and get interested in them
  • A simple hand-tracing laughter exercise Jackie uses to help kids release pressure and reset in the moment
  • How writing things down — pen on paper — can be the first, gentlest step toward healing before you ever say a word out loud
  • Jackie's reframe on trauma (with a nod to Gabor Maté): it's not only what happened to you, but how it changed the way you see yourself
  • What "belonging" actually feels like in the body, and why it's a basic human need we're wired for
  • The two meanings of "lighten up" — releasing what weighs you down, and turning toward the light of someone who inspires you

Resources Mentioned on this Episode

- The Speak Feed Lead project — Jackie's nonprofit helping young people find their voice and a stage to use it on

- Book: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie — the classic Jackie returns to again and again with her students

- In the Groove with Todd and Jackie — the rebranded podcast Jackie co-hosts with her husband Todd Cuddeback

- Learn more about Malcolm's work at the World Laughter Organization

Featured Guest: Jackie Bailey

Jackie Bailey is The International Conversation Coach. She inspires clients to speak with significance, triumph over trauma, and champion their challenges.

Jackie is:

• Founder and executive director of The Speak Feed Lead Project

• Cohost of In the Groove with Todd and Jackie podcast

• Author/contributor of 7 books on topics ranging from leadership, healing, communication, and parenting.

• A TEDx speaker, has been featured on SPEAK in New York, and a 2015 semi-finalist in The World Championship of Public Speaking putting her in the top 98 of 33,000 competitors.

• An international award-winning team-builder, educator, leader, and coach.

Connect with Jackie:

Website: https://jackiebailey360.com/

Personal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jackie.bailey2

The Speak Feed Lead Project Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SpeakFeedLead

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speakfeedlead/?hl=en

X: https://x.com/SELFishBowl

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-bailey-4532287/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jackiespeakfeedle?

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-UK77I3lt7K2X64e6UXX0g

In the Groove with Todd and Jackie podcast: https://www.toddandjackie.com/

Amazon author page: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Jackie-Bailey/author/B0BSRGSM6K?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=c7dab321-0c94-44cc-9dbd-c0d21b2240c6

Meet the Host: Malcolm Grissom

Malcolm Grissom, affectionately known as "The Stand-up C.E.O.," is a team-building and employee engagement expert. Malcolm, an award-winning actor, comedian, International speaker, and best-selling author, masterfully blends humor, improv, and business acumen to enhance team dynamics and profitability. As a certified laughter leader, he leverages the power of positive psychology and his social work background to create engaging, results-driven experiences. Whether inspiring executives, strengthening teams, or energizing audiences, Malcolm’s unique approach fosters connection, creativity, and success. His ability to transform corporate culture with humor and insight makes him a sought-after speaker and consultant.

Follow Malcolm:

Website: malcolmgrissom.com

Facebook: facebook.com/malcolmgrissom

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/malcolmgrissom

Stressed, stuck, or leading on autopilot? It’s not a motivation problem—it’s a connection problem. Malcolm’s weekly virtual improv classes boost engagement, collaboration, and retention—all while having fun. Register now for a complimentary month: https://malcolmgrissom.thrivecart.com/everyday-encores/

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