What if happiness isn’t something you find after life gets better, but something you can begin building while life is still hard? After two traumatic brain injuries dramatically changed her life, happiness strategist Bonita Rae Pafford began rebuilding through tiny, intentional moments of joy. She joins Malcolm to explore how noticing the good, tracking small wins, laughter, play, and a few baby goats in pajamas can help us create emotional momentum when life feels overwhelming
What You'll Hear
- How Bonita's second traumatic brain injury took her to a genuinely dark place — and the small, unexpected thing that helped her hold on
- Her "Notice, Nudge, Nurture" system, and why simply noticing a good moment isn't enough unless you write it down
- The neuroscience of tiny wins: why cumulative small moments rebuild your brain's pathways to happiness better than one big fix
- A simple, science-backed trick for rewiring your brain — switch hands, take a new route, or change your routine to jolt your brain awake
- Why self-soothing habits (a drink, a snack, a scroll) aren't the same as real happiness, and how to tell the difference
- The three paths inside her book 100 Days, 100 Ways to Happier — Butterfly, Fire, and Woo and Do — and why different days call for different approaches
- Why laughter doesn't have to start out genuine to become genuine — and how "faking it" can be the doorway in
- Bonita's closing thought: happiness isn't a luxury, it can be a lifesaver
A note to listeners: this episode includes an honest discussion of brain injury recovery and a difficult period of depression. Bonita shares her journey with hope — if anything in this episode resonates with you personally, please know that support is available.
Resources Mentioned on this Episode
- The Smile File — Bonita's free weekly email with a brain-training task and the neuroscience behind it
- Book: 100 Days, 100 Ways to Happier by Bonita Rae Pafford
- The Wild Happiness Society — Bonita's weekly Zoom community, held Thursdays
- Wild Happiness Radio — Bonita's podcast
- Learn more about Malcolm's work at the World Laughter Organization™
Featured Guest: Bonita Rae Pafford
Bonita Rae Pafford is a speaker, educator, entrepreneur, and happiness strategist who helps people create more joy, resilience, and emotional momentum through simple, science-backed practices. A retired high school teacher with a background in literacy, special education, communications, and media, Bonita has spent her life helping others learn, grow, and thrive.
Her work became even more personal after navigating major life plot twists, including recovery from traumatic brain injuries, which reshaped her path and deepened her commitment to helping others rebuild with hope, humor, and practical tools. Out of that journey came The Wild Happiness Project — a heart-led movement designed to help overwhelmed people feel happier and stay happier through tiny wins, habit stacking, brain-based strategies, and everyday moments of joy.
Bonita is the founder of The Wild Happiness Society, host of Wild Happiness Radio, and creator of programs, talks, and tools that make personal growth feel encouraging, doable, and human. She blends lived experience, neuroscience-informed insights, and a warm, uplifting approach that helps audiences feel seen, supported, and inspired to take their next smart step.
Known for her compassionate energy, creative ideas, and real-life honesty, Bonita brings conversations that are both meaningful and practical — the kind that leave listeners feeling lighter, stronger, and more hopeful.
Connect with Bonita Rae Pafford:
- Website: https://wildhappiness.life/
- Email: [email protected]
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/100days100ways_life?igsh=MWlsdDRneGoxbGh2dQ==
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bonita-mcc/
- Telegram: https://t.me/+5kBrEsE1S9FiNGEx
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Meet the Host: Malcolm Grissom
Malcolm Grissom, affectionately known as "The Stand-up C.E.O.," is a team-building and employee engagement expert. Malcolm, an award-winning actor, comedian, International speaker, and best-selling author, masterfully blends humor, improv, and business acumen to enhance team dynamics and profitability. As a certified laughter leader, he leverages the power of positive psychology and his social work background to create engaging, results-driven experiences. Whether inspiring executives, strengthening teams, or energizing audiences, Malcolm’s unique approach fosters connection, creativity, and success. His ability to transform corporate culture with humor and insight makes him a sought-after speaker and consultant.
Follow Malcolm:
Website: malcolmgrissom.com
Facebook: facebook.com/malcolmgrissom
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/malcolmgrissom
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