I used to lose myself in my relationships.

When I was in my 20s. I’d become quiet and censor myself around other people. I held back from saying what I thought. I tried to blend in and become a matching replica of the people around me because I felt different - like an old soul. 

At some point, I noticed I was shrinking down. And holding back from being my true self. 

Once I noticed it, I set out to live with greater congruence and authenticity. And since then, year after year, there’s one word that captures my intention for how I want to live, and that word is “alignment”.

As HSPs, it’s not hard to get disconnected from yourself. As energy readers, we absorb and feel influenced or pressured by the energy around us. By the fast decision makers, the fast movers, the seemingly fearless ones. We see how other people operate and think we’re supposed to operate in the world like them.

We feel the pressure to feel less, to act quickly, to be extroverted, or super social, and to adopt a live hard, play hard lifestyle. It’s easy to think we need to live the way we see other people living. Maybe we’ve even been told we need to toughen up and be less sensitive.  

I used to think I wasn’t assertive enough and that I was too much of a people pleaser.  I just needed to stand my ground more and be stronger and then I wouldn’t lose myself in relationships. 

But I’ve shifted my understanding of this dynamic with the help of a tool that explains why I become a mirror of the people around me. And gives insight about what to do about it. 

So in this episode, you will learn: 

• What it means to live in alignment
• How it causes daily distress to live out of alignment
• Two qualities to embody that can help you live in alignment
• One tool that can help you understand why and how you take in the energy of other people so you can notice when it happens and stay centered in yourself

If you’re an empath or think of yourself as a people pleaser, this episode will give you a new perspective about how you absorb the energy of others, and what you can do to stay centered in yourself. I hope that it will help you view yourself with compassion, release self-judgment, and feel good being yourself.  

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