This episode is for you if you recognize yourself having a tough time navigating when your partner is upset.

This could be when they are upset in general, stressed out about work or life, or when navigating conflict between the two of you. For example, you were honest about something with them, and now you’re dealing with their emotional reaction… and since you feel like the “reason” they are now upset, you now also feel responsible for making it “better.”

I get it - you want your people to feel good and be happy. But, it is also exhausting to be in a relationship or dynamic, where you are not only worrying about your own emotional well-being and regulating yourself but also needing to do that for the other person.

What ends up happening, is you sacrifice your own needs in order to fix things for your partner or bring the situation back to “harmony” … even if it isn’t “honest harmony.”

Now, I feel it’s important to add, that you may have an incredible partner and a generally healthy relationship. It is not your partner’s fault that you respond in this way. This comes down to a deeper cycle playing out, about how you believe relationships are meant to work and what your role is. Your partner is also allowed to have their feelings, and as mature adults, they can take responsibility to regulate their emotions.

This episode is to help you address your part of this cycle and how you can release this need to “fix” or the overwhelm you feel in moments of tension because of this.

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In Episode 3 of the Conflict to Connection series, it’s time to talk about emotional boundaries.

Tune in to uncover:

* How to navigate your relationship and your emotions when your partner is upset

* Why you are feeling drained because you sacrifice your needs for the greater harmony of the relationship

* How to not feel responsible for fixing your partner’s emotions and reactions

* Symptoms of how this can show up in your relationship

* How to regulate your emotions through difficult conversations

Episodes in this series:

Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your Partner

Ep 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?

Ep 3/6: (Current Episode) How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It On

Ep 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship?

Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or Pushback

Ep 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the Peace

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