Calling all peacekeepers, people pleasers, and women who feel deeply.

You crave intimacy—the kind that feels safe, grounding, and deeply connected. But somewhere along the way, you learned that in order to keep love, you had to hold back, soften your edges, and become “easy to love.”

Maybe you don’t even realize you’re doing it. Maybe you tell yourself, “It’s not worth bringing up” or “I don’t want to be difficult.” But what if avoiding conflict isn’t actually protecting your relationship—what if it’s creating distance?

Peace isn’t the absence of conflict—it’s the presence of emotional safety.

If you want real connection, you have to stop protecting the illusion of harmony and start creating true emotional safety—starting from within.

Press play now to learn how to own your voice, release the fear of being “too much,” and finally feel free to take up space in love.

Tune in to Uncover:

* Are you still trying to be the “cool girl” in love? The belief that being low-maintenance makes you more lovable might be the very thing keeping you disconnected.

* Even in a healthy relationship, do you still feel like you have to keep the peace? Let’s explore where that fear comes from and why it’s not actually about your partner at all.

* Silencing yourself isn’t creating harmony—it’s creating distance. The real cost of holding back your emotions (and how it slowly erodes intimacy).

* What if your partner isn’t actually making you feel “too much”… but you’re still finding proof that you are? How your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in this belief.

* Emotional sovereignty is the real peace you’re looking for. Learn how to stop absorbing your partner’s emotions and basing your self-worth on their reactions.

* You are not too much—you’ve just never felt safe to take up space. Let’s redefine what you need in love and shift into true emotional security.

💫 Press play now to shift the way you show up in your relationships—starting from within.

Episodes in this Series Conflict to Connection:

Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your Partner

Ep 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?

Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It On

Ep 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship?

Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or Pushback

Ep 6/6: (Current Episode) You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the Peace

What if love could feel secure, even in the hard conversations?

If you’ve ever felt like you have to choose between speaking your truth and keeping the peace, I want you to know—you don’t. You can express yourself, set boundaries, and navigate conflict without fear of rejection or disconnection.

🌿 Conflict to Connection is my 9-day mini-course designed to help you feel safe expressing your needs, holding your ground, and creating real emotional security in love. Inside, you’ll learn how to:✔️ Stop overthinking how to say what you need & start communicating with clarity✔️ Handle your partner’s reactions without shutting down or self-abandoning✔️ Break the cycle of conflict that leaves you feeling unheard or disconnected

You don’t have to walk on eggshells to keep love intact. You get to feel safe, seen, and supported in your relationships.

💫 Join Conflict to Connection today and start shifting the way you show up in love. Click here to learn more.

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If you’ve ever hesitated before speaking up in your relationship—overthinking how to phrase it, worrying about how he’ll react, or feeling guilty for even having needs—this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the hidden patterns that keep you stuck in fear of rejection or pushback, and how to start communicating your needs in a way that feels safe, confident, and deeply connecting.

Maybe you’ve been here before—sitting with words caught in your throat, rehearsing how to say what you need, carefully choosing each word so it won’t come across the wrong way. You tell yourself, “It’s not a big deal, I’ll just let it go.” But deep down, a quiet voice is asking… “What about me?”

This episode is for the woman who feels deeply, loves deeply, but struggles to trust that her needs are safe to be expressed. If you’ve ever held back from speaking up—because you didn’t want to feel like a burden, because you feared rejection, or because you didn’t want to “ruin the moment” in love—this is your invitation to shift that pattern.

Love is not something you have to earn by being easygoing, agreeable, or selfless. You are worthy of deep emotional safety—just as you are.

Press play, and let’s shift the way you show up in love.

Tune in to uncover:

* Do you hesitate to express what you need because you don’t want to seem needy or make things uncomfortable?

* Why speaking up in relationships can feel so vulnerable—even when you know your needs are valid.

* The hidden patterns that might be making you second-guess yourself before you even say a word.

* How to express your needs in a way that feels natural, safe, and actually brings you closer to your partner.

* The simple mindset shift that helps you stop over-explaining, minimizing, or waiting for the "perfect moment" to speak up.

✨ If this episode is speaking to you… if you’re realizing how often you hold back in love—not because you don’t know what you need, but because you’re afraid of how it will be received—then I want to invite you into something special.

Conflict to Connection is my mini-course designed to help you navigate difficult conversations in your relationship in a way that makes you feel closer, not more distant. Inside, you’ll learn how to:✔️ Express your needs without over-explaining, shutting down, or fearing rejection✔️ Handle your partner’s reactions without taking them personally✔️ Feel emotionally safe in love—even when the conversation feels hard

This isn’t about learning “better communication skills” in a surface-level way. It’s about breaking the cycles that make conflict feel unsafe, so you can stop tiptoeing around the things that truly matter.

Right now, Conflict to Connection is available on pre-sale for just 27€ until February 17th—after that, the price will increase. If you know this is the next step in your journey, now is the time to join.

💫 Click here to join Conflict to Connection now. 💫

(If you’re listening to this later, the course is still available! Just check the link for current pricing and details.)

Episodes in this series:

Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your Partner

Ep 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?

Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It On

Ep 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship?

Ep 5/6: (Current Episode) How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or Pushback

Ep 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the Peace

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Could conflict be a missing piece toward a deeper connection within your relationship?

In the fourth episode of the Conflict to Connection Series, we answer the question: “Is conflict really as bad as we have been taught it to be?”

Through our lives, experiences growing up, and conditioning (think movies, books, the media) to believe that “conflict” is the problem.

Conflict is not the problem.

The problem is how we approach conflict.

This determines whether it creates dissonance or deepens intimacy.

However, most of us aren’t sat down and taught how to navigate conflict or moments of tension. We see what our parents did or the people around us, and we mirror them. And suddenly, without evening realizing it, these cycles become our lives and influence the quality of the relationships we have.

So let’s explore why this is, what the symptoms of unhealthy conflict are, and how you can begin shifting towards healthy conflict that allows moments of tension to act as friction that deepens your relationship.

The Pre-Sale for my new Mini-Course “Conflict to Connection” is starting soon. Comment or DM me “CONNECTION” for more details on the pre-sale or keep your eyes peeled here.

Until then…

Upcoming Free Workshop: The 3-Step Framework to go from Conflict to Connection

Are you ready to turn conflict into connection and feel CLOSER to your partner—without losing your voice in the process?

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In Episode 4 of the Conflict to Connection series, it’s time to talk about the importance of conflict.

Tune in to uncover:

* the concept of conflict and how you’ve been taught that conflict is bad

* Why conflict is not the problem and what is actually the problem instead

* Unpacking your experience around conflict growing up and how that informs how you deal with conflict in your relationship now

* Symptoms of unhealthy conflict and how it’s showing up in your relationship (and what to do instead)

* The two things you need to make conflict a powerful and positive thing within your relationship, and how to use it to create deeper connection with your partner

Episodes in this series:

Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your Partner

Ep 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?

Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It On

Ep 4/6: (Current Episode) Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship?

Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or Pushback

Ep 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the Peace

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This episode is for you if you recognize yourself having a tough time navigating when your partner is upset.

This could be when they are upset in general, stressed out about work or life, or when navigating conflict between the two of you. For example, you were honest about something with them, and now you’re dealing with their emotional reaction… and since you feel like the “reason” they are now upset, you now also feel responsible for making it “better.”

I get it - you want your people to feel good and be happy. But, it is also exhausting to be in a relationship or dynamic, where you are not only worrying about your own emotional well-being and regulating yourself but also needing to do that for the other person.

What ends up happening, is you sacrifice your own needs in order to fix things for your partner or bring the situation back to “harmony” … even if it isn’t “honest harmony.”

Now, I feel it’s important to add, that you may have an incredible partner and a generally healthy relationship. It is not your partner’s fault that you respond in this way. This comes down to a deeper cycle playing out, about how you believe relationships are meant to work and what your role is. Your partner is also allowed to have their feelings, and as mature adults, they can take responsibility to regulate their emotions.

This episode is to help you address your part of this cycle and how you can release this need to “fix” or the overwhelm you feel in moments of tension because of this.

Upcoming Free Workshop: The 3-Step Framework to go from Conflict to Connection

Are you ready to turn conflict into connection and feel CLOSER to your partner—without losing your voice in the process?

Come hang out with me in this 20-minute workshop. Sign up for free below.

In Episode 3 of the Conflict to Connection series, it’s time to talk about emotional boundaries.

Tune in to uncover:

* How to navigate your relationship and your emotions when your partner is upset

* Why you are feeling drained because you sacrifice your needs for the greater harmony of the relationship

* How to not feel responsible for fixing your partner’s emotions and reactions

* Symptoms of how this can show up in your relationship

* How to regulate your emotions through difficult conversations

Episodes in this series:

Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your Partner

Ep 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?

Ep 3/6: (Current Episode) How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It On

Ep 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship?

Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or Pushback

Ep 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the Peace

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You know when you want to share something but it doesn’t seem to come out right?

You worry that you’ll be misunderstood or judged for what you are sharing. Perhaps, you are so worried about how it might hurt your partner, that you choose to sugarcoat your real feelings. Or you opt for saying nothing at all.

Maybe you talk a LOT. But somehow, exactly WHAT you want to say isn’t being communicated or you choose to stick to lighter topics, wanting to avoid any tension.

So whether you are the BEST talker in the world or you second guess everything before (and after) it comes out of your mouth, is communication really THE biggest key when it comes to relationships?

Could it be, that there is something else that can make or break just how deeply connected your relationship can be?

Press play for the second episode in this series Conflict to Connection, and let’s find out!

Upcoming Free Workshop: The 3-Step Framework to go from Conflict to Connection

Are you ready to turn conflict into connection and feel CLOSER to your partner—without losing your voice in the process?

Come hang out with me in this 20-minute workshop. Sign up for free below.

In Episode 2 of the Conflict to Connection series, it’s time to talk about communication.

Tune in for:

* Why it’s not “all” about communication (and what it’s actually about)

* How most people communicate and what’s missing

* Surface level vs. deep end communication

* The main underlying fears and beliefs that are standing in your way of communicating your needs honestly and authentically

* How to communicate both your emotional needs and your core wounds with your partner

Episodes in this series:

Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your Partner

Ep 2/6: (Current Episode) Is It Really ALL About Communication?

Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It On

Ep 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship?

Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or Pushback

Ep 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the Peace

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If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.

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Do you tend to downplay your needs or push things aside, thinking “It’s not such a big deal” or “It’s not worth getting into a disagreement about this right now and making it a bigger thing?”

Are you not voicing a need or a feeling unless it feels relevant to a bigger issue?

Are you taking care of everything for everyone else, ensuring everything remains harmonious and balanced?

Your needs matter.

To authentically and confidently share your needs so that your partner can show up for you the way you desire, the foundation for connected communication must be set.

It’s easy to stay caught up in a cycle where you downplay your true needs (especially as empaths) because it’s “not that big of a deal,” simply because you want to avoid potential conflict.

Long-term, this only leads to more disconnect and feelings of isolation.

In this new series Conflict to Connection, we will be exploring how conflict can actually cultivate deeper intimacy in your relationship, and how to lean into it through deep and vulnerable communication.

Tune in to this first episode in the series to find out:

* Why you are not addressing your needs or downplaying them, and you don’t even know it

* If you are actually sharing your needs or if you’re just really good at talking a lot

* Why you feel disconnected in your relationship and that it’s not about your partner (*gasp*)

* Why being an empathetic person who meets everyone else’s needs actually makes it harder to meet your own

* How to have the (difficult) conversation with your partner - and the mistake that you’re making when you’re sharing your needs

Episodes in this series:

Ep 1/6: (Current Episode) Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your Partner

Ep 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?

Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It On

Ep 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship?

Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or Pushback

Ep 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the Peace

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Have you ever noticed that you present a different version of yourself based on the social context? Similarly, do you notice that this also adjusts based on the group?

It is natural to adjust ourselves to fit in. It is a primal part of ensuring your survival. However, when we dig a little deeper, there is a thin line between fitting into the social group and actually adjusting who you are.

Through conditioning and socialization, your upbringing will have taught you not just what to do to fit in but WHO to BE.

Now, as we dive into the final episode of this four-part Holiday Relationship Dynamics Series, we are addressing just that: the masks you wear, the personas you present, and how you might be (unknowingly) playing these out in your family environments this holiday season.

Authenticity is an absolute “hype-word” as of late, however, it remains true, that the more fully you show up as yourself, the more aligned relationships you will cultivate.

Let’s talk about how you can do that this holiday season with your partners, parents, family, and beyond!

Tune into this final episode for:

* Explore what it really means to “show up authentically” around family, friends, and loved ones, even in the most complex situations (and how your brain tries to stop you).

* How to let go of social masks and “shoulds” to transform your holiday experience and create deeper connections.

* Learn how to shift out of needing the situation around to be “good” for you to feel good internally.

* Find out why you may very well be the BIGGEST trigger in your family, and how to navigate this by remaining true to yourself.

* Discover how authenticity reduces stress and increases joy, making your time together feel meaningful and real.

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In part three of the four-part “Holiday Relationship Series,” we are getting into navigating specific situations within your family this holiday season.

Whether you have lovely family connections, but sometimes find yourself getting so annoyed by your mom’s need to ask you a million times if you want something else to eat, or you are returning to some more challenging dynamics, this episode will give you a framework for navigating whatever arises.

Moreover, the dynamics at play might very well bleed into your own partnership, affecting or putting a strain on your relationship. Knowing how to communicate your needs and process your emotions, on your own and within your partnership, is going to be key to staying grounded and balanced.

In the end, your peace during this time is your priority. Holding space for your needs and desires, making time for rest, and allowing yourself to withdraw healthily, are all ways to honour yourself. Let’s talk about how you can lean into this.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

* Discover why family gatherings can be challenging for relationships and bring out hidden insecurities or tension.

* Learn how to set boundaries that protect you (and your relationship) from outside stressors, conflict or criticism.

* Find out why some old family patterns still trigger you, even as an adult, and how to handle these moments with more compassion and emotional neutrality.

* The reason why traditional boundary setting isn’t “enough” when it comes to successfully setting boundaries and standards (and why it feels hard AF to stick to them).

* Two actionable strategies for Get strategies to feel supported and set boundaries that actually work, so you can navigate any situation that comes up, together.

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Next week, the winter solstice is upon us, marking the shortest day and the longest night. Although this might not seem like a topic that relates to inner healing and deepening relationship intimacy, it is a potent time.

Let me explain. One of the main themes I share here — especially on ESSENCE — is that the more you know and understand yourself, the more connection and intimacy you are able to cultivate in your relationships.

This is because you cannot explain or communicate what you do not yet understand. Part of knowing yourself is knowing your ebbs and flows within your cyclical nature. Here, I talk a lot about the menstrual cycle as an intuitive guidance system and communication tool. The seasons correlate to this cyclical energy, and present you with a guidance system for doing this deeper inner work.

This second episode in the four-part holiday trigger series is a beautiful way to connect to the seasonal energy and tune deeper within yourself. Press play to find out how you can use the potent portal of the winter solstice to do just that.

In this episode:

* Dive into the Winter Solstice as a perfect time for self-reflection and relational growth.

* Learn how this season’s slower pace can help you and your partner explore deeper layers of connection.

* Discover guided reflection questions to reveal unspoken needs, dreams, and challenges you can address together.

* Find out how winter introspection can reveal what each of you needs for a truly supportive relationship in the coming year.

* Uncover simple rituals and practices to renew your bond and create shared goals during this season of stillness.

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Welcome to the first episode in a 4 part holiday series on navigating relationship dynamics.

Whether you’re spending the holidays with family, your partner, or close friends (or celebrating something different at a completely different time of year), it’s only natural that these situations can bring up a lot.

Sometimes going back home can bring up triggers that make you question if all the “healing” you’ve been doing has changed anything at all (Trust me, it has, and we will talk about it!).

It can bring up tiffs with your partner around things you normally wouldn’t be irritated with, and suddenly there’s another divide.

It can also be a time for questions about marriage, kids, and relationships, which can be super triggering if you’re navigating avoidant or anxious attachment styles or ROCD.

Over the next 4 weeks, we’ll be talking about all this and more, like how you can tap into the seasonal energy of winter to deepen your connections and how to stop adjusting yourself to different situations.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

* Why the holidays bring up unexpected emotional triggers in relationships, more than usual and often before you even realize it

* Learn how to recognize anxiety-inducing patterns that surface around family gatherings and within your relationships

* Discover tools to help you stay grounded and reduce emotional reactions before they take over.

* Understanding the “why” behind your holiday stress can help you connect with your partner, rather than withdraw or lash out.

* Find ways to reclaim holiday peace and turn stressful situations into opportunities for deeper intimacy and growth within your relationships

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