By silk stockings lover. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.

It inspired great fucking, and some occasional trips to the emergency room, with some embarrassing admissions, especially at the Catholic hospitals where nuns circulated and prayed for injured patients.

But most couples fell deeper in love with each other, and late night tv ratings dropped, as couples turned in earlier.

Today we’re inviting silk stockings lover to talk to us about sexual variety, particularly sex positions. Her many presentations have helped many couples turn boredom and monotony into exciting new adventures in coupling. Her she is.

Most couples end up using one, two or three positions over and over.

Which, by the way, makes sense.

They work.

But sticking to the variety is the spice of life concept of this essay; the best way to do that is to explore the hundreds of positions you can try.

Some new ones you will love.

Some new ones you will not.

Some will be like how the fuck would that even work.

But just trying something new together is fun.

Don't take it seriously.

Have fun.

Laugh.

Communicate.

Know when to give up if a position isn't working or isn't comfortable for one of you. Don't keep doing it if you are uncomfortable; sex should be enjoyable for both parties.

Acknowledge that this will be a lengthier encounter likely and if all goes to hell in a handbasket you can always go back to three go-to positions or do oral.

No reason you both shouldn't get off regardless of how well or how bad a new position goes.

While you can buy entire books on positions (I have a position per day book which has some great positions, you can find positions online and even on apps, I will offer you ten that I think are great ones to both enjoy and mixed it up a little without getting too wild.

A. The Corkscrew

This is one of our now go to positions. For one, he likes standing up during sex for some reason; I don't really.

But I do like being on my side for sex; so this one is a great compromise for what we both like.

I position myself at the edge the bed. I bend my ass so my cunt is easily accessible while I usually grab a pillow for my head. He stands on the side of the bed and slides into me.

For some reason, he tells me I feel tighter this way.

Also, I should note, he comes faster this way.

Fun variation: I will put my vibrator pressing against my clit during this position to really experience intense pleasure inside and out.

B. The Piledriver

Now I'm not sure if there is a better name for it; or an official name; but this is without a doubt my husband's favourite position and can be done pretty easily in a variety of places. Like the corkscrew he is usually standing, although not always, and I am usually at the edge of the bed.

He grabs me by the ankles, pulls my legs and feet together and then simply penetrates from this position. Because my legs are together sliding inside can be more challenging so I recommend either penetrating the vagina first or having some lube generously lathered on the penis.

Once in, he can control the depth and angle and I am his submissive fuck toy. The stimulation in this position is great for me as well.

A major bonus is he can rest his body against my nylon-clad legs, caress them and even kiss, lick and smell my stocking-clad toes.

Fun variation: he can continue to hold my ankles, spread me wide and pile drive me that way.

C. The Dragon

I love this position. For one, it is a very submissive position. I used to call it the pile driver part two; although they are very different positions and stimulations.

In this position, I lay on my stomach on a bed (this position you definitely need to be on a bed), and he lies on top of me and penetrates me from the top. (Obviously, this would be a great position for anal as well, but we are discussing vaginal penetration here).

My man will start slow, actually even moving his body in slight circular motions that find a way to stimulate my entire vagina. While doing this he is usually kissing my neck and this begins as a very intimate encounter.

Eventually, once I am begging for him to fuck me, to give it to me, to pound me, to pile drive me, the encounter shifts from sweet and sensual to raw intense fucking.

As he pounds me, his body slamming into mine with each deep thrust by body meets him as he has me bouncing around like a raggedy Ann doll. It is exhilarating and always leads to great orgasms for both of us.

Fun variation: be careful with this one as I knocked the wind out of myself when my man shifted from slow to fast; but a small vibrator or one of those new tiny clit focused toys (I need to get one of those) directly on your clit will enhance the pleasure and have you talking nasty and going ballistic when you reach orgasm.

D. Magic Mountain

This one takes a little work to get into the right position, but the rewards are great. This is one of the most intimate positions as you can admire each other's bodies or make sweet eye contact.

The man sits on his ass, bends his legs, leans back in his hands and forearms. The woman does the same thing. Each person then moves closer to each other until the penis slides inside the vagina.

This position can be slow and sensual. More a making love than a fucking. Eventually, the encounter shifts from sensual to raw as the woman can grind her clitoris on the lover's pelvis. We have tried this a couple of times; but my lack of coordination makes it never get overly smooth; as does his impatience to fuck hard. That said, it is a great position; especially for women.

E. Doggy style

I know what you are thinking? Doggy style? Not really overly interesting. Point taken. Yet, this position is overly underrated for its simplicity, and yet that is why it is such a damn good position.

I'll explain it in case we have some rare virgins reading here, but I simply get on all fours, sometimes I have a pillow before me to bury my face in when he really is giving it to me and I'm near eruption. He simply moves behind me on his knees, although he often moves to one knee when he really begins to fuck me and slides in my cunt (yes, this is also one of the best anal positions and the one we use the most the rare time I allow myself to be sodomized; I like that word. This position again puts me in the submissive position as a receiver and his cock can get incredibly deep in my cunt stimulating every erogenous touch point.

Fun variation 1: I can take some control by bouncing back and fucking him. I don't do this much and if I do not for long, but it is a nice variation and gives him a brief rest while showing him just how hungry I am for his cock.

Fun variation 2: as always, a toy can greatly assist the woman when it is placed against her clit as she is fucked.

Fun variation 3: while already mentioned, I'll repeat this is a good anal position.

F. The Wheelbarrow

Now this is a real workout for both; especially the woman. Last time we did this I only lasted thirty seconds as I just don't have a lot of upper body strength. That said, if you can do this one, even for a brief amount of time, it is worth it. Although I suggest you google it for a better image, the basic concept is the female gets on all fours on the floor. The person doing the fucking then lifts up the person on all fours by the pelvis. This position allows the penis to go incredibly deep and at angles that stimulate unlike almost any other position. Or you can do this position besides an intense satisfying fucking, you will get a great arm workout.

G. The Seashell

God, I miss being flexible. This used to be my favorite position back in my youth although I called it the pretzel for obvious reasons (apparently there is another position called pretzel). The woman lays in her back with her legs rises way up so the ankles cross behind her head (which is something I can no longer do). The man then can slide in easily and go so deep; I mean really fucking deep.

Fun Variation: use a toy on the clit to make the orgasm come quick and intense.

H. Face-Off

This one is quite intimate and the control is in the hands, or more accurately, the cunt of the woman. The male sits on the edge of the bed or a chair. The woman sits on his lap facing him and wrapping her arms around him. Besides the fact that you can kiss him, he can kiss your neck, the woman has the control. She can choose the angle the cock goes in, she can choose the depth of entry and the part of the ride.

Fun variation: As mentioned you can make out, look deep into each other's eyes, have your hands roam.

I. Butter churned

Now I should say I have never tried this one, and alas never will at my age, body shape and lack of flexibility; alas to be young again. But described as a must in a female orgasm stimulation site this one looks amazing and I imagine would give the lady amazing orgasms.

The woman lies on her back her legs raised and folded over so that their ankles are on the side of her head (you can likely see this would be challenging for many women). The man straddling her legs slides in.

This one is also very submissive and the giver is in complete control. He can quickly change angles to stimulate the woman's cunt differently and completely controls the depth; and I imagine this position the cock can go so fucking deep.

Another bonus you can get great eye contact and watch this one throughout for an intimate or raw experience.

Fun variation: Not my idea, but I will be trying this in another position soon, have the giver pour something delicious into your mouth like chocolate syrup, whip cream or even fruit. Apparently this will get more senses involved and increase the intensity of the experience. (Currently added to my sex fuck-it list).

J. 69

Surprised?

Not all sexual positions have to include penetration.

And, for me, a 69, is one of the most romantic and intimate positions.

Also, one of the rare positions where both are equals in the giving and receiving of pleasure.

Also, there is more than one way to do this.

Version 1: the woman lies on her back and the man straddles her. The male bends down and dines on her cunt while the woman leans up to suck that cock.

Version 2: reverse positions, with the man on the bottom his hard cock saluting the woman while the woman straddles her man's face. Of the three this is likely my favorite version although I like the third one as well. The first version kinks my neck pretty fast. I also like I can just sit on his face when I get close. Ladies if you have not grinded your cunt on another person's face you have not lived (a rare moment where I am in charge).

it is without a doubt my favorite oral position; even if it occurs very rarely.

Men: allow a woman to sit on your face. The position lets the woman be in charge and you get the amazing sensation of being engulfed by her scent and also able to easily dine on her cunt; or even just have your face used for her to get off.

Version 3: lie side by side; with each person's face staring at the other's private area. The pro to this one is both can be comfortable in ways the first two can't. It also has the positive of when things get more intense the man can fuck your mouth pretty smoothly and you can grind your cunt on his face.

Fun variations:

Women: play with his balls.

Men: use your fingers.

Either: use a sex toy.

It is eventually the universal language of oral pleasure.

One more recommendation; less position based and more variety based:

Play, around the house.

Sex can get predictable. We have already established that and will add how to change that even more with number eleven. That said, one easy way to mix it up is simply to have sex in other places besides on your bed.

For one, if you have not had your cunt eaten or fucked while on top or bent over a working washing machine, you have not lived.

Regardless, you bought a house to live in; live in it.

Go down on her in the kitchen while she is cutting a salad, go down on him in the living room while he is watching a game, be intimate in the shower, and have sex against a wall in the hallway.

Mix it up.

Want to be really kinky, have sex in your children's bedroom (Ps: we have not done that).

And while I wouldn't consider myself completely a free-use woman (a popular porn thing of late. Although the scenes never have any actual plot to set up the free-use concept), I was kind of a free-use woman way before that was a thing.

My husband has flipped up my dress or skirt, pulled my panties aside and fucked me in various rooms in the house and while I was doing a variety of chores (dishes, laundry, vacuuming, taking a nap).

Occasionally this annoys me, as I'm not in the mood, but usually it temporarily stops what I was doing and we have sex. By the way, he is smart enough to always say something flattering as he is flipping up my dress or skirt.

The point being the more variety the more likely neither of you ever get bored.

By silk stockings lover for Literotica

Based

1. The woman who plays the victim in every situation.

Nothing is ever her fault. She constantly blames her problems on bad luck, other people, or circumstances outside her control. This lack of accountability makes growth and healthy conflict resolution impossible in a relationship, Esther Perel points out.



2. The woman who refuses to compromise.

Relationships take compromise, but she’s a “my way or the highway” kind of person. Her needs and desires always come first, and if you don’t bend over backwards to accommodate them, you’re labeled selfish or uncaring.

 

3. The chronically jealous and insecure woman.

Some jealousy is normal, but she takes it to an extreme. She constantly needs reassurance, accuses you of being interested in others, checks your phone, and tries to isolate you from friends. A relationship built on distrust and possessiveness instead of mutual respect is doomed.

 

4. The woman who can’t be alone.

She rushes from one relationship to the next and hates being single. This often stems from insecurity and an inability to be alone with her own thoughts. These relationships tend to be intense, codependent, and lack healthy boundaries.

 

5. The emotionally manipulative woman.

She’s a master at using guilt trips, tears, or withholding affection to get what she wants. Healthy relationships are built on honest communication, not manipulation. It’s exhausting trying to navigate her ever-changing emotions to avoid upsetting her.



6. The woman who sees every past relationship as the “crazy ex.”

If a string of exes have all been “crazy,” “unreasonable,” or “total narcissists,” it’s likely not them – it’s her. She refuses to own her role in past relationship breakdowns, which is a recipe for repeating those same patterns with you.

 

7. The woman who needs to be the center of attention.

She thrives on drama and needs all eyes on her. She might interrupt conversations, make everything about herself, or even stir up conflict just to get a reaction. It’s impossible to feel like an equal partner with someone this self-absorbed.

 

8. The woman who refuses to apologize or admit when she’s wrong.

Mistakes happen, but she takes any admission of fault as a sign of weakness. She’ll twist situations to paint herself as the victim, even when clearly in the wrong. Relationships can’t grow without two people taking responsibility for their actions.



9. The woman who gossips and speaks badly about others.

If she gossips about others, she’ll likely gossip about you when you’re not around. She can’t be trusted, and creates a toxic atmosphere where you never feel completely safe. Constantly tearing others down is a major sign of insecurity, CNBC notes.



10. The woman who never has anything positive to say.

Some people are naturally more pessimistic, but there’s a difference between that and being chronically negative. If she complains about everything, nitpicks, and rarely seems genuinely happy, it’ll drain your own positivity. Relationships should uplift you, not drag you down.



11. The damsel in distress who always needs rescuing.

At first, it feels good to help someone, but if she’s constantly in some crisis – financial, emotional, etc. – it becomes exhausting. There’s a difference between supporting a partner through tough times and being their primary source of stability. She needs to learn to take responsibility for her own life.



12. The woman who never fully leaves her ex behind.

Maybe they’re still “close friends”, she constantly compares you to him, or she still harbors hopes of getting back together. This guarantees you’ll never feel like the priority, and is incredibly disrespectful of your relationship.

 

13. The woman with unresolved trauma she refuses to address.

We all carry baggage, but there’s a difference between working on healing and expecting a partner to be your therapist. Untreated trauma often causes unhealthy behaviors, making her difficult to be in a relationship with until she seeks professional help.


 

14. The woman with wildly different values or long-term goals.

Opposites can attract, but if your core values (about money, family, where you want to live, etc.) are wildly misaligned, it creates constant friction. It’s hard to build a life together with someone headed in an entirely different direction.


 

15. The woman who’s disrespectful towards you or others.

This includes rude comments, belittling your accomplishments, dismissiveness, or treating service workers or strangers poorly. Disrespect is a sign of low character and will poison the relationship over time.

 

16. The woman who doesn’t support your goals and ambitions.

Partners should be each other’s cheerleaders. If she’s dismissive of your dreams, makes fun of your hobbies, or becomes jealous of your success, it’s a sign she doesn’t value you as a whole person and resents your growth.

 

17. The woman who controls your life.

She might dictate who you can hang out with, what you wear, or how you spend your time and money. Relationships are partnerships, not dictatorships. Controlling behavior is a sign of deep insecurity and can easily escalate into abuse.

 

18. The woman who lies, even about small things.

White lies might seem harmless at first, but if she can’t be honest about little things, how can you trust her with the important stuff? Lying is corrosive to relationships and breeds distrust over time.

Enjoy this piece? Give it a like and follow PsychLove on MSN for more!

By Sinitta Weston .

Here are some toxic traits in men that you should definitely watch out for. Remember, recognizing these signs early on can save you a lot of heartache down the road.

 

1. He constantly puts you down.

Whether it’s subtle digs at your appearance, career, or choices, or outright insults, a man who consistently belittles you is not a keeper. He might disguise it as “jokes” or “constructive criticism,” but if it leaves you feeling hurt and insecure, it’s not okay. A healthy relationship should build you up, not tear you down, the Cleveland Clinic notes.




2. He’s overly controlling.

He wants to know where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing at all times. He might try to isolate you from your friends and family or dictate how you dress and behave. This controlling behavior stems from insecurity and a desire for power, and it’s a major red flag for potential abuse.

 

3. He lacks empathy and emotional intelligence.

Does he dismiss your feelings or invalidate your experiences? Does he struggle to understand or express his own emotions? A lack of empathy and emotional intelligence can make it difficult to connect on a deeper level and resolve conflicts in a healthy way.


 

4. He’s always the victim.

No matter what goes wrong, it’s never his fault. He blames other people for his problems, refuses to take responsibility for his actions, and sees himself as a constant victim of circumstance. This self-pitying attitude can be exhausting and make it difficult to have a balanced and supportive relationship.



5. He has a history of disrespecting women.

Pay attention to how he talks about his exes or female friends. Does he speak of them with respect and kindness, or does he demean and belittle them? His past behavior can be a strong indicator of how he’ll treat you in the long run. If he has a history of disrespecting women, it’s unlikely he’ll change for you.





6. He’s overly jealous and possessive.

A little jealousy can be flattering, but excessive jealousy is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness. Does he get angry or suspicious when you talk to other men? Does he constantly check your phone or social media? This behavior can be suffocating and lead to controlling and abusive patterns.




7. He has anger management issues.

Does he have a short fuse and lash out easily? Does he break things, yell, or resort to physical violence when angry? Anger management issues are a serious red flag and can escalate into dangerous situations. Don’t make excuses for his behavior or try to “fix” him. Your safety and well-being should always come first.




8. He’s addicted to substances or has compulsive behaviors.

Whether it’s alcohol, drugs, gambling, or other addictive behaviors, these issues can strain a relationship and create a toxic environment. It’s important to consider whether you’re willing and able to support him through his struggles, or if it’s best to distance yourself for your own well-being.




9. He’s financially irresponsible.

Money matters can be a major source of stress in relationships. If he’s constantly in debt, has no savings, or makes impulsive purchases without considering the consequences, it can create financial instability and resentment. While everyone has different financial habits, it’s important to be with someone who shares your values and priorities when it comes to money.




10. He’s dishonest and manipulative.

As Verywell Mind points out (and you probably already know), trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If he lies, gaslights, or manipulates you to get his way, it’s a major red flag. He might twist your words, deny reality, or make you doubt your own sanity. This kind of emotional manipulation can be damaging and leave you feeling confused and insecure.




11. He doesn’t respect your boundaries.

Healthy relationships require mutual respect for each other’s boundaries. If he ignores your requests, pushes your limits, or makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s a sign that he doesn’t value your autonomy and well-being. Boundaries are essential for maintaining a healthy sense of self and ensuring that your needs are met.



12. He lacks ambition and motivation.

While everyone has different goals and aspirations, it’s important to be with someone who has a sense of purpose and direction in life. If he’s content with mediocrity, lacks ambition, and shows no interest in personal growth, it can be frustrating and demotivating for you. A healthy relationship involves mutual support and encouragement to reach your full potential.


 

13. He’s emotionally unavailable.

Does he shut down emotionally, avoid intimacy, or struggle to express his feelings? Emotional unavailability can make it difficult to build a deep and meaningful connection. While everyone has different communication styles, it’s important to be with someone who’s willing to open up and share their emotions with you.


 

14. He’s inconsistent and unreliable.

He cancels plans at the last minute, forgets important dates, and doesn’t follow through on his promises. This inconsistency and unreliability can create a sense of instability and leave you feeling undervalued and unimportant. A reliable partner is someone you can count on to be there for you, both in good times and bad.


 

15. He doesn’t support your dreams and goals.

A supportive partner should be your biggest cheerleader, encouraging you to pursue your passions and dreams. If he dismisses your ambitions, belittles your achievements, or tries to hold you back, it’s a major red flag. You deserve someone who believes in you and wants to see you succeed.


 

16. Your gut tells you something’s off.

Sometimes, the most reliable indicator of a toxic relationship is your own intuition. If something feels off, don’t ignore it. Trust your gut feeling and listen to the subtle red flags that your conscious mind might be trying to rationalize away. Your intuition is often a powerful tool for protecting yourself and making wise choices.

by

Ask to see accreditation. A sex coach is not a sex therapist. Sex coaches may do more physical touching and demonstrating body parts. “They don’t have the same licensure that sex therapists do. Anyone can hang up a sex coach shingle,” says Bartlik. Compared with sex therapy, sex coaching is less stringent and not regulated, according to Bartlik.

Sex therapists often hold degrees in marriage and family therapy, social work, theology, psychology, or medicine. You can find licensed sex therapists in your area from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists.
 

This post is part of the How To Sex podcast. Subscribe in your favorite apps.

By BareAmy83 & LePenseur. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.

Today we’re talking about the thrill of ministering to your sex

Author’s Note: I have pooled various internet research, studies,

Enjoy and happy blowjob giving!

Oral sex is one of the safest acts of sex between two people. There

While giving oral sex to a female can be incredibly rewarding, the

And more to the point, what *actually* happens when a male ejaculates into someone’s mouth?

Sure, there’s a satisfying orgasm for that person, but for the person

And, depending on how you look at it, the outcome from receiving that load of semen is either disgusting or sexy.

Personally, I feel it to be insanely sexy!

To understand what happens when you receive a load of semen in your

The human tongue is actually the largest muscle in your body. It aids

Your tongue is mostly made of muscles, anchored to your mouth by a

Filiform: taking up the front 2/3rds of your tongue, they do not contain taste buds.

Fungiform: mushroom-like in appearance, they are on the sides and tip of your tongue, and consist of about 1,600 taste buds

Circumallate: small bumps on the back of the tongue, containing about 250 taste buds.

Foliate: rough golds of tissue, containing several hundred taste buds.

Taste buds are clusters of nerve cells that send sensory messages to

In total, the human tongue has from 2,000 to 8,000 taste buds. Each

When a male ejaculates into the mouth cavity, a whitish fluid called

A typical ejaculation will have 15 million to 200 million sperm per milliliter.

Semen is a delivery method, and once delivered, it’s the sperm’s job

This is where things get interesting.

Each sperm has one job: find a female egg and fertilize it for

In the mouth, that means that a majority of sperm and going to be

The longer the seminal fluid and sperm stay on the tongue, the more intense the stimuli from the taste buds will be.

Because seminal fluid contains sugars, minerals and other flavors,

The brain, feeling these items are necessary, will pump extra saliva

Saliva will also help break down the clumps of sperm into a more

Diving back that deep into the mouth and throat will trigger an

In around 15 minutes, the immune system will receive signals that

The immune system can only rid itself of the sperm through the blood

Within 30 minutes, millions of sperm are in nearly every organ of the body, including the brain.

The sperm can attach to active sites of proteins, causing

Although it’s certainly not been proven, it’s been postulated that

Consumption of sperm has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety. It

Typically, within 40 minutes, the sperm that remains in the mouth

Any dry, dead sperm outside the mouth with become stiff due to the

Any semen consumed by the body will think it is food and use it for cell regeneration.

The body will use it to make new cells.

The sperm literally becomes a part of you.

By BareAmy83 for Literotica.

By LePenseur

I have a confession to make: I am entranced by the clitoris.

Ever since I learned about it, I wanted to see one for real. I wanted

But that wasn’t the end of it. Every lover I have, I long to see her

I always pronounce it “KLIT-oh-riss.” I’m aware of an alternate

Now, there are other parts down there too. There’s the vagina, which

I know, I know, there are other parts of a woman too. But as of the

Don’t take this to mean that bigger is always better. A clitoris is

Similarly, while I drool over the clitoris to no end, I don’t want

So what makes a clitoris attractive? I wish I could answer this

Sometimes I wonder what people would think if they knew about this

An eager, straining clitoris. It makes me smile, just thinking about it. I love everything about the clitoris.

I love how a clitoris swells when aroused. I love the way a clitoris

I love to spread a woman’s cum on her labia and admire how it

I love to feel a pulsing clitoris in my mouth. I love to run every

The clitoris enthralls and enchants me. The clitoris delights me.

The clitoris is a work of art.

By LePenseur for Literotica

By AnaLeePleasured. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.

I have always found it odd that there are women out there who do not enjoy giving a man a blow-job, especially if it is the man they love, or are in love with. Personally I just cannot imagine anything nicer than the experience of sucking a beautiful hard, or soft cock and knowing that my efforts are being enjoyed. I believe it is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to pleasure a man in this way. I have always wanted to explain why I love it so much and how I feel when I do it and what the experience gives me. That is what I will attempt to do now. I hope that someone out there enjoys reading about how wonderful cock sucking is from one woman’s perspective, and hopefully somehow, a few of those women out there who see it as a “chore” can be converted into developing a new attitude to pleasuring their man.

My first time that I went down on a man was after a late, or rather, early night of partying hard on the dance floor of a local nightclub when I was just eighteen. He was thirty-seven and we had been getting hot and close all night and into the morning. Others on the dance floor were telling us to “get a room”, and we finally listened to them. So off we went to his place for the rest of the ‘night’.

We both had a shower and went to bed but sleep was the last thing on our minds. So we kissed and I finally got close enough to see what I had been brushing up against all night. His cock was long and hard and I ached to touch it. I didn’t ask, just reached out and felt it, running my hand up and down the shaft,  Soon I was masturbating him with both hands and getting more and more excited by his groans of pleasure. I don’t know why, but I just sort of took control of the situation because he was enjoying himself so much and seemed happy by what I was doing. So I kissed a trail down his strong lean stomach till my mouth found its target.

He was so surprised when my mouth engulfed his cock. He couldn’t seem to believe that I had just gone straight down on him without a word of encouragement from him. He seemed almost alarmed that I had wanted to suck his cock. For me it was the most natural thing in the world. I had never done it before and I had never even seen porn at that stage in my life. I just knew I wanted to taste, to use all the senses that I possessed. But then, that is just how I am, I believe in getting the most out of a beautiful experience, making meaningful memories that last long after the act. That is what I am all about.

So that was my first experience of sucking a cock and when I think about it now, what I loved most of all about it, was the way he enjoyed what I did. He encouraged me every step of the way with moans and groans, saying “YES” when I sucked his balls or gently stroked them with my hands while sucking his cock. Then afterwards, he had looked at me in amazement and awe, admitting that he had never been so masterfully handled before and wondering where I had learned to do it so well.

He also told me that no woman had seemed to really enjoy sucking his cock before and that it usually seemed as if a woman did it as a “favor” or saw it as a “chore”, needing to be asked to do it. He said he couldn’t believe I had done it voluntarily. What he said had made me wonder why anyone faced with such a lovely cock would need to be asked to suck it, I just couldn’t understand it. From that first experience I learned so much about men and what they like and I also learned about myself and what I like too.

For me there is no greater compliment than having a man’s erect cock pointing straight at me, I see it like a child sees candy, it just begs to be tasted and sucked. It is my reward for being a good girl, I get to have the lollipop. When we are young our parents teach us that there is more joy in giving, than receiving and as we grow older, many of us stop thinking that way and start to want more and more and give less and less. That is such a shame because life should be more about giving and enjoying the shared pleasures that creates.

It is not a nice feeling when we give someone a present and then realize that it is not actually something that they need or want. But most women quickly recognize that sucking their man’s cock is one of the greatest presents you can give him, and sadly, many women use this as a blackmailing tool, manipulating their men into giving them something or doing something for them or forgiving them after a fight. This really makes me angry and my heart goes out to those men who are being used in such ways.

What do I love about sucking a juicy cock? Well, this is something that cannot be said in a sentence or two, I need to write a whole fucking story about it! For me it is an honor, as mentioned before. Here is a man, a beautiful man with a nice juicy cock all ready to be used by you. Just the thought that someone WANTS me to pleasure him, that is the first thing that excites me beyond belief! Without that WANT, I might as well be sitting back watching television.

I love the visual aspect of a cock disappearing into a willing mouth, and sometimes I envy the man because he gets to look down at his cock moving in and out between loving lips of a wanting woman. So, because I cannot see it from where I am, up close to all the action, I imagine how it must look to the man I am sucking, seeing it from his point of view. That turns me on BIGTIME!! I love when a man tells his woman to “look up” at him while she sucks him, and I imagine that sight from his perspective.

Eye contact is so important for me during sex. Eyes are windows to the soul, so to look into them means to see more than just a cock, or a man, or a woman, but instead to see right through to what makes them who they are. That is something I find incredibly attractive when I am in love. I want to see inside the man, which allows me access to even his deepest, darkest secrets and desires. When I look up into a man’s eyes as I suck his cock, my heart beats even faster and harder, making me hornier and wetter. To see a man’s eyes reflecting the emotions he is feeling, the amazing sight he is seeing, the sensations he is experiencing, THAT stays with me and affects my every thought of him from that moment on.

I also love seeing a cock all shiny and wet with my saliva from sucking him and spitting on him. It is a turn-on for both my man and me when my mouth pulls back from sucking and there is a long rope of drool connecting my mouth with his cock. It is all part of getting 'down and dirty’ during an intense sexual experience. The visual aspect itself is fantastic, but that is expanded even more when you add the mental stimulation. The fact that a woman will play for hours with a man’s cock and drool all over it and enjoy seeing all that wetness and get turned on by it, that is what pleases a man and when he is pleased, that in turn pleases me too.

I have often made reference to my sense of smell when engaging in close contact with another. How a man smells all over and especially when you get close to his cock, can mean the difference between a woman feeling like she is in heaven, or in bed with the toilet brush. That may sound cruel but I can understand why some women are turned off by a man who is not clean or healthy. An unhealthy man who does not eat the right foods or drink plenty of water can smell less than nice and this affects the mood and the taste of his cock and also the taste and smell of his cum.

I love the clean, fresh smell of a healthy man who takes great pride in his body. This also makes me want to worship his body as I would like mine worshiped. I even love the smell of a healthy man’s sweat. This kind of sweat is even a turn-on for me after he has been exercising and while he works out with me.

My mouth waters when I kiss the head of a man’s cock. I feel the anticipation of what he will taste like and slowly I let my tongue lick over his head and gently into the eye, marveling at the fact that this is the source of so much, most importantly, the giver of human life. Right there at the tip of his manhood is the place where such important bodily fluids are excreted. My knees go weak when I think about this place I am licking, allowing myself to love all that this sacred tool is used for.

I love using my tongue to trace a line of saliva around the rim of his mushroom head and allow it to pop in and out of my mouth. This gets me really worked up as it is very sexual. I love to look up right then and see him close his eyes in pleasure at the friction that is created with this movement. I love to hear the sounds of his rapid breathing and the deep rumbling timbre of his lustful groans. I love the excited thrusting motions as he tilts his hips to meet my hungry mouth. Allowing the rhythm to take a hold of me and escalate, is something so exciting.

Hands are so important during all forms of sex as they are what 'speaks’ when there are no words. My favorite is kissing him while working my saliva covered hands up and down his slick shaft, being sure to stimulate the sensitive parts around the rim of his head. I enjoy pulling my head back a little so I can just look into his eyes while masturbating him and telling him how much I love him and what I am doing to him. There is so much you can do with your hands during a blow-job, an endless list of techniques which stimulate him in different ways, like rotating two hands around him or stroking his balls at the same time, or just using two fingers, thumb and second finger in the shape of an O, just rapidly over his head.

I love the sense of power that I have when I hold my man’s cock in my mouth or hands. At that moment and for the next hour or two, I am in control of what happens, and I am responsible for him having the most sensational, meaningful experience possible. I want it to be mind-blowing for him and not over and done with in an instant. I want to take him to the edge as many times as possible, stopping every time he is about to cum. I want him to experience orgasms of the mind and body, sometimes cumming only a little bit (if he is capable of that, not all men can do it) and then at the end, allowing him to shoot hot ribbons of cum as far as he can, or all over me.

The first time I tried to swallow a man’s cum I was only eighteen years old and I did not like the taste. It was like horrible warm soup to me and I had to spit it out, almost vomiting in the process. For some women it is like that every time and they never get used to the taste and smell. But for me, the greater my love for the man, the greater my fascination with his cum. Now I love to smell it and lick the little droplets of pre-cum off the tip of his cock. I love the feeling of accepting his 'offering’ to me like a reward for my efforts when he finally cums.

I have learned that a man is very proud of his cock and what cums out of it. For him to see a woman enjoying his cock and his cum, makes him feel emotions that are almost too hard to put into words. When I saw my fist porno I watched in horror as the man came all over the woman’s face and tits as well as into her mouth. I couldn’t believe she was actually enjoying that! Now I beg for cum. I love the fact that it is such a turn-on for a man to see his cum all over a woman as she smiles and licks it off. Once again, I put the shoe on the other foot and see it from his point of view. How AMAZING must it be to look down on a woman on her knees as long ribbons of cum spurt out of your cock and land all over her lovely face?

There are so many things you can do when you have a man’s cock in your mouth. When I first watched porn, I would skip over the part where the woman was sucking him because I had no real concept of what went on during that time, the cameral didn’t go into her mouth. But now I know how much actually goes on in there. You can tell from the sounds a man is making what is happening to his cock. I like to flick the tip of my tongue over the eye of a man’s cock and especially work up a rhythm around the sensitive dent where the rim meets on the underside of his cock, all the while still sucking him and moving his cock in and out of my mouth. This can only be felt by my man and me but not seen by anyone watching.

Another discovery which was so exciting for me was the concept of 'deep throating’. I never realized that it was possible to take a man’s cock down deep into my throat. I thought that when it slid into my mouth and stopped, that was it, that was as far as it could go. When I found out that a cock can actually move past that stopping point and slide down my throat I was so amazed. It is hard work, especially with a thick cock but the look on his face, pure joy, and the sounds of raw ecstasy in his voice as he realizes what you are doing for him, that is worth any discomfort. I have enjoyed this form of giving and have made it a point to 'practice’ as often as I can so I get used to relaxing my throat to ward off my 'gagging reflex’. This is where I like to use my various different sized dildos.

There are still two more senses I have not gone into in any great depth. Those are the sounds and the feel or more importantly, the feelings. I find the sounds that sucking on a cock makes, exciting and dirty in an animal-like way. The squelching sounds of hands covered in saliva, rubbing over a dripping cock, fucking awesome! It all adds to the experience in a positive way, heightening sexual pleasure for both the man and the woman.

I always say to men that if they want to know how the head of a cock feels in your mouth, then take a boiled egg and peel it. Pop it into your mouth and lick it, and that is what it feels like. It is so smooth and velvety and delicate, so sweet and succulent. I love textures, materials that are smooth or ribbed, silky or course. The feel of a man’s hairy strong arm against my smooth bald pussy, this all adds to the excitement and sensation so that feeling of touching his cock and balls to me is like an 'all you can eat buffet’ is to a starving man.

I know that I have only touched the surface of what can be done, and what can be felt when going down on a man or 'giving head’, but I am not a very technical type of person so I can only try to describe how it feels to me. My greatest fantasy is to have a naked man on my bed and to have the next few hours or days or weeks to just do everything I have always dreamed of doing to and for him. For me it all begins and ends with the mind. First you must have the thought and then you put it into action. But at the end you must be able to reflect on what you did and communicate with your partner. This way you learn from each experience and find ways of improving each time.

There is an endless world of different sexual experiences to be had so there are no excuses for doing the same thing, the same way, every time.

So women who just suck their man’s cock for a few minutes as foreplay should re-examine what they are giving. You don’t cook the same dish, the same way, every day, so why not shake things up a bit? I believe that women who have a sexy male in their life, should worship his cock.

By  Ana Lee Pleasured for Literotica, from How-To Sex Podcast