If your marriage is ending, you may be convinced that things will never be good again.

But what if I told you there is a way to stay positive, even during a divorce? To feel less vulnerable in stressful situations? And change the dynamic of conversations with your ex?

Bill Carmody serves as Chief Coaching Officer for Positive Intelligence, where he oversees the application of mental fitness for thousands of coaches worldwide.

Bill is also the author of the bestselling book The 3 Rules of Marriage, and he is dedicated to being an inspirational leader who creates breakthroughs for himself and solves problems for others.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Bill joins Katherine to explain how Positive Intelligence strategies can help you be less reactive in stressful situations and stay positive regardless of your circumstances.

Bill shares his approach to making progress in high-conflict conversations, challenging us to develop mental fitness and stop the cycle of judgement when we feel criticized by our ex.

Listen in for Bill’s PQ Reps exercise for dropping into your fully present self and learn how to leverage Positive Intelligence to focus on the outcomes you want during a divorce.

Topics Covered

How Positive Intelligence helps us stay positive regardless of our circumstances

What happens when we let our emotions run us in the process of divorce

Using Positive Intelligence to feel less vulnerable and be less reactive in stressful situations

How to adjust your autonomic nervous system to cultivate a sense of calm

Bill’s PQ Reps exercise for dropping into your body and being fully present in the moment

Bill’s strategies for changing the dynamic of conversations in high-conflict circumstances

How mental fitness allows you to focus on the outcome you want in divorce

Bill’s 3 rules of marriage (don’t keep score, show appreciation & don’t go to bed angry)

Why we tend to judge others when we feel criticized and how to stop that cycle

How PQ Reps can help people who are contemplating or navigating divorce

Why Bill recommends coaching to help you focus on what’s important in divorce

Connect with Bill Carmody

Positive Intelligence:

https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected] 

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

The 3 Rules of Marriage by Bill and Elena Carmody:

https://www.threerulesofmarriage.com/free

The Saboteur Assessment:

https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/