As a people pleaser, your main objective in life is to create deep and loving connections with people. Supporting them is something that brings you joy. But most of the time you struggle to put up boundaries. You set yourself as last priority in your life.

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Chapters

0:00 Introduction

0:42 5 Problems

0:43 1. Emotional Toll

1:15 2. Holding back

1:43 3. Downward spiral

2:04 4. Self-expression

2:25 5. Biggest problem

2:52 How to stop being a people pleaser

3:55 Hurdles

The cost of people pleasing - 5 problems

1 Emotional toll - anxiety - guilt - driven by the perception of being a "good" person

Exhaustion worrying about their reactions - scared of being rejected by them

feeling resentful and humiliated

2 You hold yourself back - lack of fulfilling on your goals and dreams - not allowing yourself to be appreciated - go against better judgement

3 They become harder to please - they value you based on how much you do for them. the more you do the more the want. and so you suffer more because you spend more energy on them

4 Not expressed - not putting yourself first and unable to say what you want

missed opportunities

5 Needing to be pleased

The hurdles of breaking free

When you realise you can break free from people pleasing, it often causes you to be scared to do so, or angry and frustrated at the way you have been compliant for so long. Remember to have compassion for yourself on this healing journey. You’ve been trained in this way. Recognising that it is subconscious programming allows you to let it go.