Have you ever found yourself being defensive even when you know you are wrong? In today’s episode, Quinn discusses defensiveness and what it looks like in relationships, why it’s a problem, and techniques to stop it from ruining your relationships.  
After the episode, listeners will understand: 

How mindset affects defensiveness. 
What pledge we need to take to stop being defensive… 
The four steps to respond without defensiveness.  

Mind Renewal Tip: 
There are always two sides to every story. You can see someone else’s view without agreeing they are right.  
Responsibility is the antidote to defensiveness.  
Scripture Renewal Tips 
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15 
Four Steps to Less Defensive Reactions:

Pause 
Listen 
Agree and Take Responsibility 
Then explain

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How to Stop Being Defensive by Understanding the Root of It

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In each episode of this podcast Quinn tackles subjects like negative self-talk, perfectionism, battling off defensiveness in marriage, parenting or friendships to give you something to think about in a renewed way each week with relatable stories, practical tips and a non-intimidating style because Quinn may not be able to solve the world’s problems, but she is passionate about helping you solve yours — making her ready to “Renew YOU.”&nbsp;

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In today’s episode, Quinn shares the story of her smile getting healed miraculously through the prayer of an unexpected person while she was at work. This experience not only moved her but taught her more about the power of bold faith.  
In the episode, Quinn details how this experience: 
Has strengthened her faith in miracles through this process. 
Confirmed God is the same God today as he was in the Bible. 
Encouraged her to tell others to pray to increase in their faith.  
Mind Renewal Tip: 
While we often want to limit God’s ability to move and do miracles in our everyday life, God is the same God that healed others everywhere he went. His character has not changed because as scripture teaches us, HE is the same yesterday, today and forever.  
Scripture Renewal Tip: 
The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. James 5:16-17 
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In the episode, Quinn shares: 

Two of her favorite scriptures that provide her comfort during this time. 
How she is examining her thoughts and making them captive to Christ. 
How much pouring into scripture is the best way to renew the mind. 

Mind Renewal Tip: 
We end up with junk in our mind if we don’t fill it with truth. 
Scripture Renewal Tip:
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5 

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In today’s episode, Quinn discusses how to help improve your marriage in a hurry! The habits discussed are meant to be simple and easy to apply! 
In the episode, listeners will learn: 

The power of prayer in a relationship 
When to utilize therapy in your marriage to resolve hangups 
The simplicity of appreciation in strengthening marriage 

Mind Renewal Tip: 
A marriage with God goes from self-dependency to God-dependency and strengthens because of it.  
When a spouse feels appreciated, they feel seen, and when they feel seen, they feel loved. And when a spouse feels loved, marriages thrive! 
Scripture Renewal Tip: 
A cord with three strands is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12

4 Easy Habits to Improve Your Marriage in a Hurry!

Have you ever found it is easy to find fault in your in-laws and feel annoyed?  If you relate, you are not alone. However, this habit is not helpful for marriages because it causes distance between you and your spouse!  
In this episode, Quinn offers solutions in finding ways to build positivity toward your in-laws by discussing: 

Instances boundaries are necessary and times annoyances need to be overlooked. 
What happens when you find the positive in your in-laws and share it with your spouse. 
The importance of modeling a good relationship with your in-laws to your children.  

Mind Renewal Tip: 
Every time you express an annoyance about your in-laws to your spouse, you create a wedge of division in your marriage. Instead of finding what your in-laws don’t do, look for what they do. And tell your spouse you notice it! 
Scriptural Renewal Tip: 
Love is patient, love is kind…it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13

One Secretly Destructive Habit that Weakens Marriages

In today’s episode, Quinn addresses a simple way couples can connect with one another and build intimacy through the use of questions. In the episode, Quinn teaches 8 questions that spouses can ask each other every month.  
After listening to the episode, listeners will understand how: 

Understanding a partner’s stress is something that can help fix their spouse's mood.  
Asking about relaxation allows you to support one another better in stress management. 
Inquiring about future goals allows you to create a partnership. 

Mind Renewal Tip: 
If we don’t ask, we often don’t know what is on the mind and heart of someone we love. No one should know more about our partner than we do! 
Scripture Renewal Tip: 
What do you want me to do for you? Matthew 20:32 
8 Questions to Ask Our Partner:

What is your biggest stress right now?  
What is one habit I have that is concerning to you?  
What is the best thing I can do to make you feel loved? And one that makes you feel unloved? 
What's one thing can I do to support you better with our household? Kids? 
What helps you relax?  
Is there a goal you have in your life that you aren’t working toward?  
Is there anything you need to share with me that you haven’t?  
What are you most proud of in your life?

How to Stop Being Defensive by Understanding the Root of It

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