Nervous system regulation is the key to breaking the over-functioning cycle that's destroying your energy, your relationships, and your sense of self. In this episode, trauma educator and somatic coach Lindsay Lockett (host of Holistic Trauma Healing) explains exactly what's happening in your body when you can't stop doing, fixing, and managing everything for everyone around you.

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

• Stop the anxiety loop of compulsive doing and hypervigilance with somatic awareness tools

• Recognize over-functioning as a sympathetic fight/flight survival response — not your personality

• Sit with dopamine withdrawal when you stop people-pleasing and over-managing

• Break the cycle of burnout, resentment, and emotional shutdown in your marriage and motherhood

• Use integrity and authenticity as the compass for real nervous system healing

If you're Googling:

IBS, brain fog, chronic fatigue, high-functioning anxiety, freeze response, rage, touched out, emotional numbness, or "why can't I relax" — this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome to Notes to My Nervous System

01:24 – What over-functioning really looks like (and why it's not "Type A")

04:15 – The nervous system science: sympathetic dominance & excess cortisol

06:58 – Why your body is addicted to fixing — the dopamine loop explained

10:31 – How to sit in the discomfort when you stop compulsive doing

11:45 – The dopamine hit from solving other people's problems

13:06 – Why you're socially rewarded for the thing that's burning you out

16:28 – Hypervigilance: Why you track the tomato paste and your partner doesn't

17:37 – Breaking the generational pattern with your kids

24:28 – The wall: What happens when progress isn't enough

33:05 – The real question: Would you still do it if nobody was watching?

36:30 – Over-functioning and integrity — the missing link

38:57 – Advice to your younger self: "Fuck around and find out" in authenticity

44:24 – Nervous system reset & Mind Circuit app (formerly Ease)

About the Guest:

Lindsay Lockett is a trauma educator, somatic coach, and host of the Holistic Trauma Healing podcast. She helps women heal from trauma, nervous system dysregulation, and unconscious relational patterns through somatic practices and relational coaching.

Resources:

🧠 Download the Mind Circuit App ( Ease) — available on the App Store & Google Play. Try the Bilateral Stimulation (BLS) feature for anxiety relief between episodes.

Our podcast is the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App, designed for daily nervous system resets. While the show explores the "why" of your patterns, the appprovides the "how" through:

·       Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS): Powerfultools for anxiety reduction and emotional grounding.

·       AI-Powered Mood Tracking: A data-driven wayto continue our "Real Conversations" privately.

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Website → mindcircuit.org

Legal & Safety

Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including "Mom Therapy" sessions—is for informationalpurposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship. The Mind Circuit app (Ease) is a self-help tool and is not a substitute for clinical treatment.

Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 (US/Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room.

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