Have you ever stopped and wondered why it’s so hard to fully feel your emotions… or even admit them sometimes? Maybe you find yourself brushing aside sadness, guilt, or even anger, like they’re inconvenient intruders. And maybe… just maybe… that habit didn’t start with you—it started with how we were treated as children.

Here’s the thing: we were created with feelings. They are signals — messages from our body and brain, trying to give us information about our needs, boundaries, or environment. They are not the problem. But what happens is this: as children, many of us were taught the wrong things about them. We weren’t shown how to listen to the information our feelings were trying to tell us, so we learned to dismiss, ignore, or even shame them instead.

From a very young age, many of us were subtly—or not so subtly—taught that certain emotions were ‘bad,’ ‘wrong,’ or too inconvenient for the adults around us. I know I was. Crying too much? ‘Stop that, you’re fine.’ Feeling frustrated? ‘Don’t be dramatic.’ Feeling joy or pride? ‘Don’t get too full of yourself.’ And these little messages, repeated over and over, became the scripts we carried into adulthood.

Today, we’re going to unpack how those early lessons shaped the way we experience and even dismiss our feelings today—and we’ll talk about how to start rewriting those scripts. If you’ve ever brushed aside a feeling or stayed quiet to keep the peace, that’s okay — it’s exactly what so many of us were taught to do.

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