Have you noticed how getting healthy sounds simple…
 but actually living healthy feels like trying to walk up a down escalator?

You decide you’re going to drink more water… and suddenly every ad is for a latte.

You plan to go to bed earlier… and somehow it’s 11:42 PM and you’re watching videos you didn’t even mean to click.

You want to feel better mentally… but before you’ve even brushed your teeth, you’ve already scrolled past bad news, perfect bodies, productivity hacks, and someone your age who “has it all together.”

And if you’ve been feeling behind…
If you’ve started and stopped more times than you can count…
If you haven’t started because it already feels overwhelming…

Take a breath, because feeling this way doesn’t mean you’re broken!

Today we’re talking about something we don’t acknowledge enough:
The world we live in makes it really hard to stay consistent with our health, our habits, and even our mindset… And That’s Okay! 

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Let me say this clearly, right from the start.

Your feelings do not define you.

But somewhere along the way, many of us started giving them way too much power.

We treat feelings like facts.
 We speak them like truths.
 And then we wonder why they start shaping how we see ourselves.

“I feel like I’m failing.”
 “I feel behind.”
 “I feel exhausted.”

And without realizing it, those words stop describing a moment…
 And start describing who we think we are.

But feelings were never meant to do that.

They are signals.
They are information.
They are indicators — not identifiers. 

A feeling is meant to tell you something is happening,
Not this is who you are.

And if your inner voice has been running unchecked —
 If you’ve been repeating things to yourself that feel heavy, limiting, or discouraging —
 This episode is for you.

Because today, we’re taking the power back…And that’s okay!

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Have you ever stopped and wondered why it’s so hard to fully feel your emotions… or even admit them sometimes? Maybe you find yourself brushing aside sadness, guilt, or even anger, like they’re inconvenient intruders. And maybe… just maybe… that habit didn’t start with you—it started with how we were treated as children.

Here’s the thing: we were created with feelings. They are signals — messages from our body and brain, trying to give us information about our needs, boundaries, or environment. They are not the problem. But what happens is this: as children, many of us were taught the wrong things about them. We weren’t shown how to listen to the information our feelings were trying to tell us, so we learned to dismiss, ignore, or even shame them instead.

From a very young age, many of us were subtly—or not so subtly—taught that certain emotions were ‘bad,’ ‘wrong,’ or too inconvenient for the adults around us. I know I was. Crying too much? ‘Stop that, you’re fine.’ Feeling frustrated? ‘Don’t be dramatic.’ Feeling joy or pride? ‘Don’t get too full of yourself.’ And these little messages, repeated over and over, became the scripts we carried into adulthood.

Today, we’re going to unpack how those early lessons shaped the way we experience and even dismiss our feelings today—and we’ll talk about how to start rewriting those scripts. If you’ve ever brushed aside a feeling or stayed quiet to keep the peace, that’s okay — it’s exactly what so many of us were taught to do.

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Most of us start a new year thinking we’ll feel motivated and unstoppable. But sometimes, despite our best plans, the year feels… heavy. And if that’s what you’re feeling, it’s not a mistake—it’s a signal worth noticing.

I want to start this episode honestly, because that matters to me.

When this year started, I actually felt motivated.

I didn’t come into January drained or stuck.

I closed out last year intentionally. I reflected. I assessed. I didn’t rush past it.

I didn’t sit down and map out every detail for the year ahead—but I did set daily, weekly, monthly, and annual goals.

And that didn’t happen by accident.

That’s something I had to learn over time.

Because there were years where I didn’t do that.

Years where I buried my feelings. Years where I carried things without acknowledging them.

Years where I kept moving forward without listening to what my emotions were trying to tell me.

And what I’ve learned—sometimes the hard way—is that feelings don’t go away just because we ignore them.

They show up later. They show up heavier.

Maybe you opened your planner, ready to crush goals, and instead felt that familiar weight from last year… sitting on your shoulders like an uninvited guest. That’s completely okay.

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Something hit me while reading Luke this Christmas season — a passage I’ve read or had read to me my whole life.

The angel appears to the shepherds and says:

“Do not be afraid… I bring you good tidings of great joy.”

And two words leapt off the page: afraid and joy.
 
 
 
Notice what it doesn’t say: your fear is wrong. The angel doesn’t shame the shepherds for being afraid. They were terrified — totally natural. I mean, an ANGEL just appeared in the middle of the night!

But joy was there too — not instead of the fear, not erasing it, just quietly present.

What if fear isn’t something to get rid of before joy can show up?

Here’s the thought that really settled in for me:

If we only felt joy:

• We wouldn’t seek comfort.
• We wouldn’t cry out.
• We wouldn’t notice when we need help or guidance.

Some feelings alert us — they get our attention, signal something important, point us toward what matters. That’s usually the uncomfortable ones: fear, grief, anxiety, anger, sadness.

Other feelings anchor us — they steady us, remind us support exists, and show that even in the hard moments, there are sparks of light. That’s usually the positive ones: joy, calm, compassion, comfort, relief.

Here’s the amazing part: they aren’t opposites. They’re companions. The alerting feeling draws our attention. The anchoring feeling helps us sit with it without judgment. They work together — if we allow them to.

And maybe they were always meant to work together — we just haven’t learned how to let them.

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Christmas carries expectations.

There’s an idea of how this season is supposed to feel—
 joyful, connected, grateful, light.

And yet, for many people, Christmas arrives with weight.
 
 Before we begin, I want to say this gently.

This is a special Christmas message of And That’s Okay for anyone who is carrying grief, loneliness, financial stress, family tension, or simply feeling overwhelmed this season.

And YOU may not be feeling any of those things this holiday.

If that’s the case, this episode might still be for you—
 as a way to better understand someone close to you who is.

Sometimes the most meaningful gift we offer
 is presence, not presents, but p-r-e-s-e-n-c-e- presence, patience, and compassion.

If Christmas feels complicated for you this year,
 this space is for that.
 

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Have you ever gotten good news… and the first thing you did was shrink it?

Maybe just in your head. Or maybe you said:
 “Eh, it’s nothing.”
 “Let’s see how this goes.”
 “It probably won’t last.”

Before you even get to feel it, you’ve softened it. You’ve moved on.

And here’s the part that’s surprising: the part you’re missing isn’t the news itself.
 It’s the tiny spark of feeling that comes with it. That pride, relief, or joy that could actually change your day.

Today, we’re slowing down that moment.
 We’re noticing it. Feeling it. And letting it matter.

…And that’s okay!

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Have you ever had a week where nothing is technically wrong, yet everything feels heavy? You wake up, go through your usual routine, check emails, drink your coffee… and suddenly your brain feels like it’s juggling flaming torches you didn’t sign up for.

You can’t point to one thing, you can’t fix it, and maybe you’re even wondering if something is wrong with you. And that’s okay! Feeling heavy doesn’t have to mean failure or crisis—it just means this season is asking for a little more attention, a little more space, and maybe even a little patience with yourself.

Today, we’re going to explore why some seasons feel heavier than others, even when life seems perfectly fine, and we’ll talk about simple ways to lighten that load without changing your whole life.

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Today I’m talking about one of my FAVORITE things Wicked.
Yes — the Broadway musical – which I saw WAAYYY before the movies. And now the two part movie series. The green girl. The glitter. The friendship. The transformation. The FEELINGS.

We’re diving into what Wicked teaches us – not just about witches or magic – but emotions, labels, identity, perspective, and relationships that change us… and how to hold all of that with compassion.  As I sat in the theater, I could here the script for this episode writing itself …and That’s Okay! Because it’s okay to be affected by something in a big way. 

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Have you ever stopped mid-thought and wondered, “Why am I feeling this… right now?”

Like—of all the things your body could be doing in that moment, why does it choose to fire off frustration, or joy, or fear, or hope?

Here’s something we rarely say out loud…
Your emotions aren’t random.
They’re not accidental.
They’re not something you learned how to have.

You were created with them.
Wired with them.
Designed with a built-in emotional system that’s been part of you from the very beginning.

It’s the one system you didn’t have to study…
didn’t have to memorize…
didn’t have to earn.

It’s been speaking to you your entire life, even before you learned the words to explain it.

Feelings have a purpose.
A design.
A direction.

And when we learn that our emotions were created to guide us—not control us—we start to realize something powerful…
We’re meant to be in conversation with what we feel.

…And that’s okay!

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