Flying Free

How You and Your Faith Community Got Hoodwinked by an Abuser

06.28.2022 - By Natalie HoffmanPlay

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Do you wonder how he did it?

How your abuser tricked you and blindfolded your church? How he just keeps coming out on top, despite all the evidence pointing to what a sick, twisted, evil person he is?

Abuse doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It always involves the community. In this case: the church.

Wade Mullen staked his Ph.D. on the study of the hidden tactics of abuse, especially spiritual abuse within religious communities.

What he found were patterns of behavior. The slow and steady set-up for abuse to become a system, a system to become a theology, and a theology to become god.

Imagine with me: A relationship within a community where all the red flags (manipulation, lying, criticism) are called green flags and all the green flags (truth-telling, boundaries, self-respect) are called red flags.

It’s the heist of the century. And it’s working all too well.

Don’t miss out on this killer explanation:

- Why abuse always involves theft

- Why abuse always involves murder

- Why emotional abuse is just as bad or worse than other types of abuse

- The types of evil language abusers always use

- The four types of nice things abusers do (and why “kindness” from an abuser is always a WARNING SIGN)

- The reason laughter is a RED FLAG in an abusive relationship

- 6 things women need when they’re coming out of emotional and spiritual abuse (and a great place to get ALL of them)

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