129: How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationships

What is attachment style, and how does it show up in your relationships? Jessica Baum, LMHC talks about how to work through our attachment wounds to create better intimate relationships.

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This is Joy & Claire Episode 129: How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationships

Episode Date: June 2, 2022

Transcription Completed: July 31, 2022

Audio Length: 54:21 minutes 

Joy: Hey guys. This is Joy and Claire. Welcome to another episode of This is Joy and Claire. This week, Claire is out. Her kiddos are sick. Claire is sick. But we wanted to provide a very special guest this week. Wrapping up Mental Health Month – actually, this episode is going to go out on June 2. But it’s okay. It’s right on the tail end of Mental Health Month. Very excited to welcome Jessica Baum to the show. Hi, Jessica.

Jessica: Hi. Thank you for having me.

Joy: Thank you so much for being here. I was very excited when you were pitched to us as a guest because my life is mental health. Has been for 20 years. And it’s rare, for whatever reason – I think it’s just a very isolated world as a therapist. You don’t just go on podcasts all the time. It’s a tricky thing to do to talk about mental health without it getting into client privilege. I’m so excited to talk to you. You have a book coming out. You have a business. You have a coaching business. Give the listeners a quick rundown of who you are and what you do.

Jessica: Okay. So I’m Jessica Baum. I’m a psychotherapist. I do have a coaching business with a team of therapists. We really specialize in trauma and relationships and helping people work through either their interpersonal problems in their relationships or how their childhood trauma or how their core wounds are showing up repeatedly in their relationship and getting really conscious with their partner or single. On repairing that and healing that so that they don’t have to keep repeating the same patterns in their life.

Joy: So what kind of prompted you to do this work? I think I heard you on another episode of a podcast talking about how you wrote the book that you kind of wish you had.

Jessica: What pulled me into psychotherapy was my own journey with depression and anxiety. But what prompted me to write the book. I thought I was a codependent. I was reading every single book in my 20’s on codependency and nothing was really explaining what was happening in my body. The sensations in my body, the nervous system. It wasn’t until I really understood attachment theory and the nervous system and how relationships activate everything for your core wounds to surface and made sense of my experiences and a lot of my behaviors.