How Your Why Elevates Your Game

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What are we going to be talking about today?

Today we will be talking about your why – your purpose

An undeveloped why

Then we will talk about some of the scholarship of what’s happening

Then we will look at how that is going to improve your human experience

Your why – I believe that deep down we all want to live an exceptional life

An exceptional life is rooted in life experiences and as many of you have experienced in your own life, these usually come with lessons

What are these lessons in terms of purpose?

What happens is that after these lessons we create some sort of code

This code is usually rooted in survival. Survival is often a good thing but sometimes when trying to live an exceptional life that coding or default setting can actively sabotage us from moving forward.

In order to move toward the next quality of life step you have to begin to establish your values and this begins with declaring your personal why.

So what is at the core of this, inside? Simon Sinek who has written some of the great mainstream material on the why, says that your purpose for doing something needs to be more than some sort of mechanical movement. The human experience is deeper than simple surface walking.

So what is this why? What is your purpose? Why do you want to be better at something? Why do you want a better salary or position? Why do you want to lead or follow? Why do you want a great relationship or love someone? Is there a reason why you want good health? Why do you want to contribute to make a difference in the world?

So your why is really a question of the heart. The brain questions come in either or fashions, that’s how the brain is wired. A this or that fashion and as at least as I have experienced in my life, I find that kind of answering incomplete and definitely unfulfilling.

Heart questions like the why, they challenge all of your dimensions, like your body, your mind, your soul, your emotions. When someone has a strong why others will instantly recognize it and then they feel a sense of connection and belonging.

On the other hand, when people focus on the what questions for their primary sense of purpose they often find themselves competing with others rather than bonding.

When your why is strong enough it becomes your life mission. You instantly become able to make a difference because of your ability to inspire yourself and to inspire others.

So how can you find your why? It starts with your needs. For sure, physical and safety needs have to be met but what emerges is that we are actually talking and your spiritual and emotional needs. Once these are set you can sculpt your world to meet those needs and subsequently elevate your quality of life.

How do you identify your why? You begin by asking yourself, how do you want to live? Do you want to unite with others? Do you want to create nurture? Do you want to plant roots and feel connected? Do you want to produce something outside of your childhood programming? Do you want to design a code through which you want to find your way through the world?

I think there are 3 manifestations of the why, we’ll call them groups.

Group1: Most people’s why is unconscious. They are very involved in the material world. They have a compass but there is no needle that is pointing to the north. So, for them its about getting up to do a task list. They do the tasks and at the end of the day they have either completed the list -yeah – or not, boo. This continues day in and day out.

Group 2: smaller group, they have a why, can tell you about what it is, but they don’t live it. They have a compass, the needle points north some of the time, but it is not more important...