How's Your Gender?

Buzz Slutzky (they/them) is an artist & educator. Alyson Slutzky (she/her) is a former social worker / therapist. She’s also Buzz’s mom. The Slutzky’s join Wesley (he/him) to talk about:  

+ Bat Mitzvahs & revising our gender stories  

+ Alyson’s former work as a therapist to families of trans people while also being a mom of two trans kids  

+ Two examples of Buzz’s art, Clothes Feelings & My Surgery Story, as a way to process trans identity  

Watch: Clothes Feelings (2016)  

Watch: My Surgery Story (2019) 

For more info on Buzz & their work, visit their website or follow them on instagram @buzzslutzky  

For more info on Alyson, visit her website* or you can follow her @alyson_acts_positively_blue   

*Please note, she is no longer in private practice.  

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com 

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads  

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. 

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline  

US (877) 565-8860 

Canada (877) 330-6366

Chris E. Vargas (he/him) is a video maker, interdisciplinary artist, & the self appointed executive director of MOTHA, The Museum of Trans Hirstory and Art. He joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about:

+ Trans representation in popular culture 

+ Trans icons & iconography 

+ What makes a piece of artwork “trans”

For more about Chris, visit his website or follow him on instagram @chrisevargas

For more on MOTHA, visit the website or follow them on instagram @m_o_t_h_a

References:

Riki Wilchins & The Transexual Menace

Works / Artists Cited:

The Crying Game 

Ma Vie En Rose 

Desperate Living 

ORLAN 

Genesis Breyer P-Orridge & Lady Jaye 

SOPHIE 

Cut for time / Honorable Mentions:

Disclosure 

Titane 

Border 

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Jessica Lanyadoo (she/her) is a high femme astrologer, psychic medium & animal communicator who joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about:

+ The loudness of high femme energy

+ Why queer & trans people love astrology

+ Do animals have gender?

+ So! much! more! in our queerest episode to date

For more on Jessica, check out her:

Website: https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/

Podcast: https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/ghost-of-a-podcast

Book: https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/relationship-book

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessica_lanyadoo/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/jessicalanyadoo

Apps: Tiny Spark and Astrology for Days

And for even more content, sign up for her Patreon 

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Musician, movement MC, & GRP co-director Sam Rise (they/them) joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about:

+ GRP’s life-giving work creating liberatory futures through sound & joy

+ The careful year-long name change process at GRP – which feels a lot like a gender transition

+ Centering in community as a technology for connection & self understanding

For more about GRP visit https://www.girlsrockphilly.org/

To make a donation to support the work of GRP https://www.girlsrockphilly.org/donate

To learn more about Sam, check out their website http://samantharise.com/

Stream their music on Spotify 

And follow Sam on instagram @samantharise

To sit with Many Faces Sangha, a mindfulness community centering the voices & wisdom of BIPOC, women & gender minorities, TLGBQ+ folks, find out more @manyfacessangha 

In this episode, the concept of capital G "Gender" and lowercase g "gender" is borrowed from the text Trans Care by Hil Malatino. 

Trans Care, published in 2020, (and available to read *for free* right now online) https://manifold.umn.edu/projects/trans-care

For more, check out Season 1 Episode 5 of How's Your Gender? https://anchor.fm/howsyourgender/episodes/Hil-Malatino--Trans-Care-evr2lj

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Producer & friend of the pod Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him) interviews Wesley (he/him) in an ep Oliver has titled: Back for Seconds! Yep, we’re kicking off Season 2 with a proper sit down with podcast host, Wesley Flash.

They cover such topics as:

+ Trans representation on 90’s talk shows

+ Wesley’s choose your own adventure gender transition

+ Gender liberation as living your best house gender (& whatever other genders you wanna be!)

You can find out more about Oliver at oliverslategreene.com and listen to his podcast, Digital Mystic wherever you listen to podcasts.

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Welcome to the final episode of Hows Your Gender? Season 1! For the season finale, Wesley (he/him) talks to two trans people in a queer family. Ocean Ricardo (he/they) is an 18 year old trans queer witchy Puerto Rican and Black African American. Alex Fischer (they/them) is a white, queer, Sicilian and Ashkenazi Jewish, radical finance nerd, and parent. Together we talk about:

+ Fischer's path to becoming an adopted parent to a queer trans teen & embracing help along the way 

+ Ocean's journey to gender fluidity and changing his name to align with their feelings  

+ The joys, frustrations, & lessons learned being in Queer Family

& so much more! 

For more information about Camp Outright Vermont, visit http://www.outrightvt.org/camp-outright/ 

To support queer and trans youth through the magic of Camp Outright, make a financial donation today! 

Thank you so much for taking this gender journey with us. We will be back this summer with new episodes for Season 2. In the meantime, help us spread the word about How’s Your Gender! You can tell your friends to listen wherever they get their podcasts, follow us on Spotify, subscribe on Apple podcasts, and leave a review to help boost our audience.

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Academic and author Dr. Hil Malatino (he/they) joins Wesley (he/him) in this episode to talk about:

+ Trans Care, Hil's latest book & a framework for thinking about how trans people care for one another 

+ Applying a feminist body politic to back hair 

+ Hil's experience going on testosterone as someone who is intersex & trans 

You can follow Hil @hilmalatino on Twitter or check out their books at your local bookstore.

Trans Care, published in 2020, (and available to read *for free* right now online) https://manifold.umn.edu/projects/trans-care

Queer Embodiment: Monstrosity, Medical Violence, & Intersex Experience, published in 2019, & will come out in paperback later this year https://www.nebraskapress.unl.edu/university-of-nebraska-press/9780803295933/

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Let's get metaphysical! Aqeel Yaseen (he/him) joins Wesley (he/him) to offer his special flavor of wisdom. Together they discuss:

+ Learning & unlearning versions of masculinity 

+ Death metal as an emotional experience

+ Yoga as a practice of better understanding oneself 

If you want to explore the practices of yoga or energy healing with Aqeel, you can find more on his website, aqeelyaseen.com. You can also find him on instagram or facebook at @vivekaom.

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Artist, musician, & performer John Jarboe (she/her), the founder & artistic director of the Bearded Ladies Cabaret, joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about:

+ John's process of changing her pronouns

+ Problematic gender icons like James Bond

+ Cannibalism as Gender (wtf?!)  

& Wesley shares more of his gender journey, too

You can find out more about The Bearded Ladies Cabaret at www.beardedladiescabaret.com

You can follow John on instagram @johnjarbeard or @beardedladiescabaret

To watch the music video for "Rose: a true story & song" commissioned by Works & Process at the Guggenheim: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bme6-PUkDaY

For more on Harry Hay, co-founder of the Mattachine Society and the Radical Faeries: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Hay

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366

Black Femme Crone poet, writer, & teacher Ayesha Ali (she/her/Majesty) joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about:

+ Using your Majesty as a pronoun 

+ Teaching the path of joy in mindfulness community

+ Femme gender as part of a spiritual practice 

& so much more!!! 

You can meet Ayesha for mindfulness meditation at imcw.org. Just type her name in the search bar to find the Heart Refuge Mindfulness Community Sangha for BIPOC or the Heartwidth Sangha, welcome to all. https://imcw.org/Teachers/Teacher/TeacherID/192

If you found her insights helpful and you want to offer dāna, or monetary donations (please do!!!), her Venmo is @ayesha-ali-8

The full text of the Lucille Clifton poem, won't you celebrate with me, can be found here: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/50974/wont-you-celebrate-with-me

For more information about Stormé DeLarverie, go to https://www.nps.gov/people/storme-delarverie.htm

Also, do yourself a favor & watch some YouTube clips of Pearl Bailey or find an old Mae West movie ASAP. 

Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com

For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads 

Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him), Emily Bate (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline 

US (877) 565-8860

Canada (877) 330-6366