How can we actually stop caring about what people think of us? My thoughts on how to stop people pleasing, living for others, and being afraid of judgment, criticisms, etc. This had been an issue for me growing up shy, insecure, awkward and closeted. And then it was an issue for me again as I decide to do things that excites me . In the end, nothing matters for what feels right inside. Now curlfriend, it is time to take control of your life.