Human Awareness

Frank Mondeose joins Kate and Haje in this episode to talk about marriage. We talk about the history of marriage, and whether the social circumstances have shifted far enough that marriage itself still makes sense. We get deep into a conversation about what marriage is, how it serves us, and whether it run its course as an institution.

As you can imagine, all three of us have a lot of thoughts and curiosities about marriage, and the resulting conversation serves as a wonderful examination of how people make decisions about their lives and about how people can evolve in the context of a relationship.

Frank Mondeose has taught Sexual Shamanism in over 10 countries, and is a contemporary voice on Love, Eros & Relating. He embodies both play and pray, which is reflected on his YouTube web series “The Spiritual Playboy”. He is lead faculty with ISTA, the International Schools of Temple Arts, co-founder of ReMENber Brotherhood Journey, Shamanic Minister for Venus Rising Association for Transformation, and creator of the lifestyle brand Monde Osé, Frank has touched the hearts, and minds of many, whether it be through tantalizing their imaginations at his multi-sensorial events, to inspirational interactions that have navigated people to accessing their personal power.

In this episode, we talk about the importance of experiencing and expressing your emotions in a non-destructive way. Primarily, we take a deep look at jealousy. Why do we feel jealous? What can we do to embrace this feeling and use it for good in our life and our relationships? As we talk about jealousy, themes of self-worth, beauty, belonging, and even our relationship to our pets emerge and illuminate just how complex this topic is.

Chas is a life coach, working with individuals, couples, and families. Through his deep understanding of people, psychologically and emotionally, he provides a compassionate and holistic environment for personal growth. His coaching style is to work with the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, empowering lasting transformation. The goal of the work is to help clients experience a love-filled and satisfying life. He has been actively involved with HAI since 1988, as a workshop participant, an Intern, a Facilitator (1991-2008), and in various other paid and volunteer capacities, and is the recipient of the Stan Dale Lifetime Service Award. Chas is also an independent workshop leader, podcaster, and hypnotherapist. He is a certified Instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training and teaches listening, conflict resolution, and communication skills. Learn more on his website: chasaugust.com

Wrapping up our second season, your hosts Haje and Kate get into a delightful conversation reflecting on how the past 20 or so episodes have gone - and what we’ve learned along the way. It’s a wonderful, connected conversation.

May I Have This Dance will be taking a little break - but we’ll be back later in the year!

Dixie De La Tour is a sexual folklorist, professional storyteller, podcaster, teacher, storytelling coach, community builder and most of all, a facilitator. She is also the Founder, Curator & Host of the Award-winning storytelling series, Bawdy Storytelling that’s been lauded for its transformational, relatable, empowering performances.

In this episode, Haje and Kate talk to Dixie to discover what brought her to sexy storytelling - and how, after thirteen years on the road, she just keeps on going.  She even shares one of her stories with us during the podcast!

Dixie has recently been a featured storyteller for the National Storytelling Conference, and in addition to story and public speaking coaching for her own Bawdy series, she coaches for events such as TEDx, Women in Technology, and for Kink and Sexual Conferences Conferences, Classrooms and Public Libraries.

Today we have a very special episode to offer in which Haje interviews Kate, AND her mom, Kirby. You can feel the love palpitating in all directions during this intimate, inspiring conversation about raising children with mutual trust, open communication, and the understanding that human beings evolve over time.

In this episode, Haje interviews Jason, one of the facilitators at HAI, about racism and prejudice, gender identity, and having love for every human who ever lived - and ever will live. It’s a beautiful episode full of gentleness and exploration - we think you’ll love it!

Jason Weston has been a part of the Human Awareness Institute community for more than 40 years. As a facilitator, Jason assists individuals and couples in creating for themselves the lives they really want by guiding them to see and express their own beauty, power and love. He was trained at the Process Therapy Institute and holds a degree in philosophy from the University of California, Berkeley. Jason served for many years as the Executive Director of HAI Global, and is passionate about creating a world in which all people have their needs met, and nature is allowed to thrive.

Jason is also a fine art photographer whose work is internationally collected.  A descendent of a long line of fine art photographers in California, he works in his own way in continuing the tradition. See jasonweston.com for more about Jason.

In this episode, Cindy Gallop takes us into her work of carving out a platform for “social sex.” Her organization, “Make Love, Not Porn,” is pro sex, pro porn, and pro knowing the difference between the two.

Listen in as Cindy describes how reshaping how we think about porn can lead to world peace – yes seriously.

Cindy Gallop is the founder and CEO of www.makelovenotporn.com,  launched at TED 2009 – ‘Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference’. In 2013 she turned MakeLoveNotPorn into the world’s first user-generated, human-curated social sex videosharing platform https://www.makelovenotporn.tv/  socializing and normalizing sex in order to make it easier to talk about, to promote consent, communication, good sexual values and good sexual behavior.

Kimball Lane took the helm as Executive Director for The Human Awareness Institute nine months ago. Since then she has made a reputation for herself as someone who has clarity, vision, and the ability to move mountains with grace and care.

During this intimate interview, Kimball shares many of her personal life experiences that have led her to become the heart-first leader that she is.   We learn how Kimball moved from holding Love as something big and unattainable to something much more simple… something that was there all along. Kimball shares with us her personal life philosophy that “it doesn’t matter who you love, but how you love.”

You can find out more about Kimball and her coaching practice on http://kimballlane.com , and more about Kimball’s role within Hai on https://www1.hai.org/team/kimball-lane .

Sex educator, researcher and author, Emily Nagoski, pulls us into this compelling conversation where we learn the meaning behind her message that “we are normal,” that pie is an excellent metaphor for emotion, and the secret to dealing with burn-out (it’s not what you may think!)

Emily Nagoski is an expert on women's sexual wellbeing, healthy relationships, and the prevention of sexual violence and harassment.  She earned her Ph.D. from Indiana University and interned at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She worked for eight years as a lecturer and Director of Wellness Education at Smith College before transitioning to become a full-time speaker and writer. She has authored two books, “Come As You Are” and “Burnout.”

Find out more about Emily and what she does on emilynagoski.com.

William Winters is the founder of a conscious sex community in the bay area called the Bonobo Tribe.

What started from a small group of friends who wanted the freedom to explore and connect, evolved into a culture of inclusion and community.

Haje interviews William, and they get deeply into how a pandemic may get in the way of meeting in person - but not of interpersonal connection.