Human Kinder

In this conversation, artist, content creator and business mentor David Boland and I talk about how to be yourself, find your unique edge and bring spirituality into everyday life.

Most of us learn early that fitting in is how you stay safe. So we copy what works, sound like the people we admire and sand down the parts of us that might get rejected. David did this with his videos. He spent hours editing them to look like everyone else's, and mostly they didn't land. Then he sat in a chair on a piece of land in Wicklow, filmed one take in about 30 minutes, and it blew up and skyrocketed his business.

We also get into the spiritual side. In his early 20s David lived in a yoga centre, meditated for hours, visualised money in his bank account and ended up miserable with nothing to show for it. What shifted things was seeing that everything is a spiritual practice, even a sales call.

And then there's the Torquay story: 50 quid, a guitar and cleaning toilets for a bed. David stopped fighting where he was, and two days later he was offered film work with his flights and accommodation covered.

Along the way we talk about confidence and evidence, pricing, rejection, separating failure from self-worth, and why being yourself might be easier than you think.

If you want to be yourself and fulfill your dreams, press play.

Follow David: Instagram @justdavidboland or YouTube @thedavidboland or join his Skool Earn With Content

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00:00 How to be yourself: why authenticity is so hard

01:55 Why most creators start by copying others

03:50 How a viral video showed him his unique edge

05:55 The one-take video that grew his business

08:10 Copy-paste vs finding your unique edge

09:55 Why confidence comes from evidence

11:15 Inner wealth and the gap between where you are and where you want to be

14:10 Why the journey between point A and point B feels so uncertain

15:55 How to package what you offer as a transformation

17:05 How to raise your prices and charge what you're worth

18:00 Are your actions coherent with your goals?

20:35 How to handle rejection (and why a no means impact)

23:40 Separating failure from self-worth

25:10 The abusive email that shook his self-worth

30:55 Creating your life instead of reacting to it

34:55 How to be creative in any job or career

37:40 Dress code, joggers and meeting CEOs as yourself

39:55 How to make content you actually enjoy

45:00 Spirituality vs action: meditating, manifesting and getting nowhere

48:55 Missing the bus and choosing your response

53:30 Everything is a spiritual practice (even sales calls)

55:00 How to run a sales call as service, without needing the yes

58:55 Spirituality in business: your actions, not the fruits

1:00:00 Why we worry about the future and try to control it

1:02:15 If you had everything you wanted, you'd still feel the same

1:04:05 Surrender: 50 quid, a guitar and a big opportunity

1:06:00 Spirituality for the householder and living it in ordinary life

1:08:00 What "ignore your reality" really means: act like the person you want to become

1:11:05 Any state is accessible now

1:12:50 Gurus, spiritual teachers and what to keep

1:14:50 Compassion for yourself, and being kind in a productive way

1:17:00 The woo-woo phase, burnout and the surfing metaphor for life

1:19:50 Shadow motivation vs light motivation: doing it from love

1:23:15 Authenticity and radical honesty: the thread that ties it together

1:24:00 Where to find David Boland

When we look at the world today, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed. Ecological collapse, war, economic instability, division, mental health struggles — there is no shortage of reasons to feel afraid. And yet, beneath all of that, there is still beauty. There is still wonder. There is still the possibility of living with an open heart.

David has held CEO roles at organisations including Weleda and GoVita, and has spent much of his life exploring the intersection between business, consciousness, service, and personal transformation. In this conversation, we explore what it means to “tend your garden” in a chaotic world — to take responsibility for your inner state, practise awareness, and choose how you want to show up.

We speak about fear and insecurity, the practice of awe, spiritual seeking, conscious leadership, random acts of kindness, and the quiet power of doing what you can from where you are.

This conversation is a reminder that loving life is not about ignoring suffering. It is about staying open enough to see the beauty, honest enough to face the pain, and grounded enough to take the next small step.

I hope you enjoy this one.

More about David: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-johnston-867b1245/

More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinder

Show Notes

00:00 Falling in Love With Life

01:48 Tending Your Inner Garden

04:06 Early Encounters With Death

07:30 Seeking Through Youth

13:17 Life Inside an Ashram

14:26 Three Pillars of Practice

16:24 Random Kindness and Ego

17:44 Soul Alignment Break

18:51 Head Heart and Gut

23:05 Rumble Strips and Life Lessons

25:02 Journaling and Emotional Tracking

31:54 Leading Culture Change at Work

35:46 Spiral Dynamics and Society

42:12 Future View Leadership Method

44:27 Leading With Honesty

45:50 Stepping Through Fear

49:57 Coaching And Support

51:11 Awe Wonder And Work

53:46 Spiral Dynamics Explained

01:00:16 Living Strategy One Page

01:02:59 Future Questions For Society

01:08:10 Circle Of Influence

01:11:17 Workshops Warm Data

01:20:06 Purpose Chair Story

01:21:43 Ubuntu And Boardrooms

01:26:07 Final Reflections And Contact

Trauma is often spoken about as a psychological problem to be cured.

But in this conversation with Dr John A. King, we explore it through a deeper lens: as a sacred path of remembering, reconnection and surrender.

John’s story begins with unimaginable childhood sexual abuse, a total life implosion, and years of fear, shame and survival. But it also becomes a story of grace, love, country, lineage, God and the slow return to himself.

We speak about what trauma does to the nervous system, identity and relationships; why healing cannot happen in isolation; and how reconnection with partner, community, ancestors, place and the divine can become part of the journey home.

This is not a conversation that minimises the darkness.

It is a conversation about what can be found inside it.

More from Dr John: https://drjohnaking.com/

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Show Notes

00:00 Life Implosion After Recall

01:10 Podcast Intro and Guest Setup

02:55 John 1.0 to 3.0 Framework

05:25 Early Abuse and Trafficking

07:22 Fear Spiral and Isolation

08:30 Men and Trauma Blind Spots

11:51 Indigenous Lineage and Empathy

15:47 Self Love and Healing Tools

18:03 Building a Recovery Toolkit

22:59 IRAT and Lifestyle Discipline

27:39 Progress Over Perfection

32:24 Melissa and Support Networks

38:11 Soul Friends and New Identity

40:18 Reconnecting to Deeper Self

41:04 Identity And Exclusion

41:46 Cherokee Roots Challenge

42:58 Guided Homecoming Australia

44:49 From Orphan To Tribe

46:51 Why Lineage Matters

48:20 Place DNA And Belonging

52:11 Support The Show Break

26:12 Inner Ancestor Connection

56:21 Faith Spirituality Integration

01:02:26 Christ Coffee Cigars Ritual

01:08:05 Raft Dream Surrender

01:14:28 Daily Compass Trust

01:18:50 Programs Legacy Farewell

It's kind of strange to be human...

We move through life with all of these patterns, reactions, fears, longings, defences and desires operating inside us — and so often we think they are us. We try to fix ourselves, improve ourselves, analyse ourselves, shame ourselves, and somehow become the kind of person who never struggles, never reacts, never gets triggered, never feels messy.

But what if there was another way?

In this episode, I speak with Carey Davidson, author of The Five Archetypes, about an ancient map of human nature rooted in the five elements of Traditional Chinese Medicine: Fire, Earth, Metal, Water and Wood.

Carey explains that we all carry these five archetypes within us. They are not simply personality types, but living patterns of body, mind, emotion, relationship and spirit. Each of us has one primary element — a gift, an Achilles heel, and a doorway into deeper self-understanding.

For Carey, and the people she works with, discovering this primary element brings transformation and relief: a way to stop fixing oneself, understand our patterns, and meet them with more humour, compassion and freedom.

In this episode, we explore how we can see ourselves more clearly, stop identifying so tightly with our patterns, and return to balance so we can grow spiritually in our own unique way. 

Take the 5 archetypes questionnaire : https://www.fivearchetypes.com/questionnaire/

More from Carey: https://www.fivearchetypes.com/

More from Cian: https://www.humankinder.com.au/

Cian’s work with the Soul Alignment Method and upcoming Remember your Soul Purpose course: https://thesoulalignmentmethod.com/remember-soul-purpose-course

What if your purpose is not something you need to find, but something you are here to remember?

I sit down with Soul Alignment Method founder Myles Treanor and psychotherapist Shane Murphy to explore soul purpose, spiritual alignment, and what it means to live from the light.

As someone now training in and working with clients using the Soul Alignment Method, this conversation is close to my heart. It has changed the way I understand purpose, not as a vague idea or a career choice, but as something that can be felt, clarified, and lived through every part of life.

Together, we explore how your soul purpose can express through your career, relationships, health, lifestyle, creativity, and service. We also speak about how your wounds are often connected to your gifts, and how the struggles we move through can become the very material we transform into healing, teaching, connection, and contribution.

Shane shares his experience of moving from uncertainty into a life that feels more effortless and aligned. Myles shares the deeper philosophy and practical structure behind the method. And I share why, after years of psychological and spiritual work, this path helped me listen to something deeper within myself.

If you feel like there is something more you are here to do, express, or become, the Soul Alignment Method is here for you. 

Our 6 week ‘Remember Your Soul Purpose Course’ starts on the 17th May 2026. Learn more here:https://thesoulalignmentmethod.com/remember-soul-purpose-course

Show Notes

00:00 Soul Purpose 

01:19 Podcast Intro

02:28 Myles Origin Story

07:26 Purpose As Light States

11:11 Shane Turning Point

17:09 Cian Meets Myles

20:13 Remember Not Find

24:27 Blueprint With Structure

28:58 Letting Go Effortlessly

32:07 Spiritual Structure Matters

33:28 Phases of the Method

35:50 Alignment Equals Happiness

40:12 Purpose Research and Attention

44:53 Redefining Success

48:35 Staying in the Light Practice

50:54 Soul Aligned World Vision

55:09 Purpose Compatibility Relationships

01:01:59 Course Structure and Dates

01:03:15 Final Reflections and Farewell 

In this conversation, I sit down with Mark Edwards to explore what it really means to stay awake in ordinary life.

Mark has spent decades working in high-level consulting, helping large organisations drive results and lead change, whilst also walking a deep inner spiritual path. What I loved about this conversation is that it refuses the false split between spirituality and the rest of life. We explore how the very conditions we often imagine are getting in the way - work, pressure, relationships, uncertainty, responsibility - are actually the most fertile ground for practice.

Mark shares a beautiful framework for understanding his own journey through three phases: pre-belief, belief, and post-belief. We speak about the movement from striving for validation, to seeking spiritual frameworks, to slowly embodying a deeper way of being. We also explore self-love, awakening, leadership, and what it means to bring presence into systems that still need to function, perform, and meet the demands of everyday life.

The deeper invitation of this conversation is simple: to stop waiting for a more spiritual life, and to begin meeting this one with more presence, honesty and love.

More about Mark: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-edwards-consultant/

More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinder

Interested in a Free/Donation based Purpose Blueprint session? Contact Cian via website: https://www.humankinder.com.au/contact

Show Notes

00:00 Awake in the Real World

01:30 Welcome and The Double Life

06:35 Three Phases of Awakening

10:17 Letting Go in the Boardroom

13:06 Mentors and Self Worth

17:41 Soul Alignment Break

18:56 Falling in Love With Self

24:29 The Gardeners Path

29:29 What Awakening Really Means

32:46 Channels of Consciousness

35:40 Neurodivergence as Strength

47:09 Joy and Spiritual Superpowers

48:18 Joy And Attention

48:37 Reading Leaders Clearly

50:41 Neutral Presence Superpower

54:58 Pre Room Rituals

58:48 Honoring Human Systems

01:04:24 Judgment And Open Heart

01:13:03 Practices For Self Love

01:20:10 Spiritual Closet Discernment

01:27:03 Compassion With Boundaries

01:28:51 Humility And Closing 

Modern dating has given us more options than ever, yet many people feel more disconnected, burnt out, and frustrated than ever before.

In this episode, I’m joined by Ilana Orlievsky and Esha Thaper, founders of The List, a curated group of people who want to meet other intentional, emotionally-aware people for connections, romance, or something more meaningful.

We explore why so many conscious, kind, successful people are struggling to find meaningful connection in a world shaped by dating apps, endless choice, and misleading identities.

This episode is about creating a space for love to thrive, both internally and externally. We talk about why real connection cannot be optimised, why self-awareness and vulnerability matter so much in dating, and why the future of dating may depend on getting back to real-life human connection.

You’ll leave with a fresh frame for dating and practical things you can try this week.

Learn more about The List: https://www.jointhelist.co/

More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderShow Notes

00:00 AI Matchmaking Myth

01:13 Welcome and Guests

01:54 Modern Dating Crisis

04:07 Who Is Affected

07:45 Apps Changed Culture

10:49 App Fatigue and Dehumanizing

16:19 Using Apps Intentionally

20:51 First Dates and Social Atrophy

24:48 Grounded Dating Mindset

29:56 Know Yourself and Needs

35:13 Women Want vs Need

38:45 Vulnerability and Feedback

44:08 Advice for Men Today

50:05 Bring Back Flirting

55:22 Playful Flirting Abroad

56:32 Friend Zone Transition

57:53 Compliments And Date Setup

01:02:23 Courting And Chivalry

01:03:53 Touch Without Awkwardness

01:10:57 Honest Rejection Not Ghosting

01:14:53 Sex Myths And Porn Impact

01:22:55 Better Bedroom Mindset

\01:27:41 Why Build A Dating Community

01:37:09 AI Dating Versus Real Life

01:42:00 Hopeful Closing And Poem

What if the future of work is not just better strategy, better systems, or better leadership training, but a deeper shift in consciousness?In this conversation, I’m joined by Mirjana Boznovska to explore the quiet spiritual revolution unfolding inside our organisations.

We speak about burnout, disengagement, and the growing sense that modern work is no longer nourishing the human spirit, and we ask what becomes possible when workplaces begin to value inner alignment, authenticity, self-awareness, and human connection as much as performance.

Together, we explore the move from doing to being, the difference between external success and inner truth, and why so many people are exhausted from living and working in ways that are out of alignment with who they really are. We also look at self-awareness, self-responsibility, and self-leadership as practical foundations for a more human workplace.

This is a conversation about work, but it is also a conversation about worth, authenticity, trust, surrender, and the possibility that organisations can become places of real healing, transformation, and awakening.

More from Mirjana: https://onebeyondsuccess.com/Email: [email protected]

More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinder

Show Notes

00:00 Escaping the Doing Treadmill

01:24 Capitalism’s Double Edge

03:28 Burnout and Disconnection at Work

05:49 Inside Out Future of Work

11:13 Be Do Have Reversed

15:31 Radical Responsibility and Goals

18:33 Inner Audit and Guidance

26:13 Fear Versus Alignment

36:54 Radical Honesty at Work

50:35 Self Love Without Conditions

57:12 Responsibility Toward Others

59:02 Authenticity Over Competition

01:01:17 Human Connection In AI

01:01:50 Authenticity Drives Results

01:03:48 Self Determination Needs

01:07:44 Needs As Inner Practice

01:16:40 Trust And Surrender

01:29:25 Personal Awakening Story

01:38:56 Higher Power Connection

01:44:53 Alignment In Workplaces

01:48:15 Future Of Work Priorities

01:49:59 Closing And ContactInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/human_kinder/Website: www.humankinder.com.au

There is one word that has inspired more love, more compassion, more division and more violence than almost any other: God.

In this conversation, Matthew Gregoroski shares his deeply personal journey through faith, anxiety, loss, success, spiritual disillusionment, and ultimately, a direct inner experience of the divine.

Growing up in apartheid South Africa as the son of a preacher, Matt was shaped by religion from an early age. But over time, inherited belief gave way to a deeper search: one that led him through suffering, questioning, meditation, and the longing to know God for himself.

Together, we explore suffering, prayer, ego, forgiveness, awakening, and the possibility that beneath the many paths, traditions, and stories of humanity, there may be one truth waiting to be remembered.

This is a conversation for anyone who has wrestled with faith, questioned religion, felt the ache of searching, or sensed that the answers we seek may be closer than we realise.

Find out more about Matthew: https://www.themangotree.me/

More on HumanKinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinder

Chapters

00:00 Cosmic Oneness Experience

01:09 Why God Divides Us

03:02 Childhood Nightmares and Prayer

05:59 Strict Upbringing and Moral Compass

13:28 Faith, Flaws, and Forgiveness

17:15 Family Strain and Resilience

22:34 Apartheid and Church Activism

26:04 Talking in Tongues Explained

32:11 Leaving Home and Corporate Success

34:55 Thailand and Human Trafficking Wakeup

38:34 Rock Bottom in Australia

39:58 Transcendental Meditation Begins

42:06 Retreat Euphoria and God Realisation

48:21 Writing as Channelling and Faith

54:17 What It Takes to Awaken

56:34 Hunger for Fulfilment

57:42 Meditation and Breathwork

59:54 Prayer and Inner Practice

01:03:34 God and Suffering

01:08:06 Afterlife and Mediumship

01:13:38 Chasing Spiritual Highs

01:17:17 Ego and Daily Growth

01:21:31 Forgiveness and Mandela

01:28:56 Heaven Within

01:41:21 Spirituality in Corporate Life

01:49:13 Connect with Matt

There are so many words in the spiritual world. God. Soul. Manifestation. Karma. Awakening. We hear stories of mystical experiences, near-death encounters, higher dimensions and hidden laws of the universe. And somewhere along the way, it can all start to feel confusing.In this third conversation with Myles Traynor, we strip it back.We explore what he describes as the ultimate realisation about self and reality. The recognition that sits beneath every tradition, every mystical experience, every spiritual path. We talk about light, consciousness, incarnation, trauma, surrender, and what it actually means to awaken while still living an ordinary human life.

Find out more about Myles: https://linktr.ee/mylestreanor?utm_source=linktree_profile_share

Find out more about Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinder?utm_source=linktree_profile_share

Chapters

00:00 Is God the Light? Shamanic & NDE clues to the Source

01:08 Welcome to Human Kinder: why spirituality feels so confusing

02:32 Do we have a plan? Purpose, karma, trauma, and soul gifts

06:30 Destiny vs free will: the soul blueprint and individuation from Source

12:33 Who am I? Practical self-inquiry into awareness as the observer

17:50 Ad break: Free 90-minute Soul Alignment session offer

19:03 Beyond the observer: awakening, then embodying the light (the “descent”)

25:07 Light vs heavy states: attention, triggers, and attachments (karma)

28:22 Guided alignment meditation: up the spine, above the head, into the light

30:59 All traditions point to Light: Christ, Shani, Buddhism—and NDE patterns

34:56 Ad break: Follow, rate, subscribe, and Instagram

35:50 What changes when you connect to the light: peace, surrender, faith

43:37 Surrender vs action: planning, goals, and non-attachment in alignment

50:22 Desires vs Alignment: Setting Goals Without Suffering

52:00 Daily Discernment: Reading Your State (Light vs Heavy)

56:06 Body Intuition & Journaling From Alignment

59:24 Manifestation Demystified: Who Is the Manifester?

01:02:19 Reality as a Mirror: Identity, Beliefs, and the 3D Reflection

01:07:31 Efficiency & the “Primary Timeline”: Clearing the Thought Field

01:12:08 Dimensions & Embodiment: Chakras, Willpower, and Rewiring Patterns

01:18:56 Manifesting Events (TEDx Example) + Holding Intentions Lightly

01:22:47 Manifesting Purpose (Not Stuff): Clearing Limiting Beliefs First

01:30:47 Wrap-Up: Alignment Over Form + Where to Learn More (Method & Meditations)